Is this a friend worth having?

posted 2 months ago in Relationships
Post # 2
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586 posts
Busy bee

If you have to ask…

Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2016 - Tennessee

Toxic, let it go! 

Post # 4
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Helper bee

You’ve clearly made up your mind and obviously know she’s toxic. “Miserable toxic jealous.” Thems harsh words for someone who’s friendship you’re supposedly considering re-upping.

Post # 5
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Buzzing Beekeeper

kobeandbubs :  “Is she a miserable toxic jealous friend?” — I mean, maybe. There are several other possibilities, but why does the label matter? You’re judging her, she’s judging you…. Doesn’t really sound like either of you like the other that much. You haven’t heard from her in a month, I’d just let that continue. If she does reach out at some point, I recommend just ignoring it. I doubt she’ll try to hard anyway. Let it fade.

Post # 6
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Honey bee

So if all of us say “No, I don’t understand what you’re talking about.  You’re just over-reacting.  Surely she must have a lot of good qualities, too…” then you’ll what?  Stay in a friendship you clearly aren’t enjoying?  Only you can decide at what point you just don’t want to deal with it and the bad outweighs the good for you.  It shouldn’t matter what we think and you don’t need the internet to validate your friendship decisions.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2019

Why would you willingly want to stay close with someone who causes you enough drama and issue to post grievances about on the internet?

Bye Felicia.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

kobeandbubs :  Some people aren’t relationship people and that’s fine. Your friend is clearly one of those people so her comments stem from the fact that SHE can’t imagine staying with someone for the long run and SHE isn’t understanding that not everyone is like her. But overall I think that your friendship is likely to end anyway, just based off the fact that she’s a huge partier that likes to hookup and you’re settling down and getting married. 

If it helps, I’m the same age as you and I just got married. I have a friend that’s similar to your friend but without the negative comments about relationships. I invite this friend to BBQs my husband and I have at our house and other nice activities we do with our friends and this friend never comes because she’d rather go out to clubs or bars. I have no interest in going out with her because she’ll meet a guy and go home with him and leave her friends. So we basically I stopped inviting her to things, we never hang out and talk less and less. So the friendship is just naturally dwindling away. So if you want this to be drama free, I recommend doing the same thing, just simply stop reaching out to her. 

Post # 9
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Helper bee

Yeah, not sure you even have this friend anymore, so….no?

Post # 10
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: Dorset, UK

Let that shit go. 

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