Post # 1
My friend is getting engaged 10 days before my wedding. She has been obsessing about this one photographer. Her budget is going to be very tight, and this photographer is pretty expensive. She told me the other day since she cannot afford him for her wedding photos she was going to have him do her engagement pics. These are quite expensive as well. I thought a nice gift would be to help pay for part of these engagement pics to be done. I would present it creatively by making a small album of photos the photographer has done. I then on the last page was going to include a note from the photographer saying me and my fiance have donated x amount of dollars to their engagement session and that he is excited to work with them. I already spoke with the photographer and said we could arrange this no problem.
My question is given the background is this a good gift? I think she will be still high from getting engaged before my wedding, and it is the one photographer she wants. I just wonder if maybe the gift is too practical? Or is it not the best gift since I cannot afford the whole engagement session for them? I am also including a few small other items and a personal note.
Post # 3
I think it’s lovely…as long as you think the remaining amount is something they can afford. Say you pay $500 but they cannot afford the other $500……then you have a problem :-/
Post # 4
@Itsallcomingtogether: OMG this is seriously the sweetest thing ever- and for it to be a surprise to her is even more adorable. Trust me, your friend is going to love you. I would not worry one bit about its practicality- why wouldn’t you want to receive something that so important and useful to you? Much much better than crystal cake serving pieces or lingerie. I think your friend will be over the moon after you give it to her presented that way. Such a sweet and thoughtful gift-kudos! Your friend is lucky to have you 🙂
Post # 5
@Itsallcomingtogether: I would be so stoked to get that gift!
I would, however, make absolute sure that she is able to pay the remaining balance for the session & wants to do so, so that your gift doesn’t actualy burden her if she had been grappling with the idea of not doing an engagement session because it is too expensive (even with your contribution).
Post # 6
@badabing88: It is just the engagement session I would be donating to. She is aware of the price so I think it would def be doable for them.
Post # 7
@Itsallcomingtogether: I agree with PPs — it’s really nice and thoughtful of you and it seems like they would love it, as long as they can come up with the rest.
I don’t know if it would be better to give them cash/check rather than pay the photographer so that in case they can’t afford that person, they can still use it towards their pictures?
Alternatively, if you wanted to make it an even bigger gift, could you do a photography pool with other friends who might be interested in gifting and be able to actually pay for the photo session for them? Just a thought but it seems like this might be good for a group gift.