Post # 1
So my cousin is getting married this month and my wedding is in September. She lives about 6 hours away so she and her new husband will need a room. Since they didn’t register and I know as two recent graduates are probably strapped for cash, would it be an ok idea to gift them a hotel stay for my wedding? It is a nice manor style bed and breakfast and would be pretty fun. But I am wondering if she will think I am trying to “bring up” my day? What do other bees think?
Post # 3
@Breen86: I would not do it. It seems like self-serving gift.
Post # 4
Maybe just the cash would be a better idea? Cause I can totally see the “bringing your wedding idea” into it. Let her handle how she wants to handle the cash. That’s what I would do.
Post # 5
@Breen86: For Christmas this year from family friends, I got a gift certificate in the amount of two nights at the resort where the son is getting married next month. I teased him that if I didn’t go to his wedding then it was a pretty worthless gift, but in reality I thought it was a really nice gesture that suggested how important it was to that family that DH and I be able to make it! So I don’t think it would be taken badly at all — they will probably appreciate how much you value them, that you’d go out of your way to make sure they can make it to your wedding
Post # 6
Personally, I wouldn’t do that. The gift can be seen as self-serving and in the interest of your wedding…not in celebration of hers. I am not saying that is how you intend it (of course!) – I think it’s lovely to think of her, but the gift should be something she and her husband can use or enjoy separately from your wedding.
Post # 7
What Soupy said. It does seem self serving. Give them money and if they want to use it for the B&B at your wedding, then great.
Post # 8
Not offensive and definitely a sweet idea but if it were me I’d feel like you were doing me a favor for your wedding, not buying me a gift for mine.
Post # 9
Maybe a night at a nice hotel for their wedding night, instead? You could ask around if they have reservations anywhere yet. Or an upgrade to a suite and breakfast the next day if they booked something. Not paying that might make them more able to make the trip to your wedding.
Post # 10
That might be taken the wrong way, I suggest you get them something else.
Post # 11
I would not give someone that as a wedding gift. But it would be a nice “because” gift when it’s time for you wedding.
Post # 12
Oops, I missed the part where this was a gift for their wedding … in that case, probably something that’s just for them to enjoy would be better …
Post # 13
I think that’s a great idea.
Post # 15
I agree, it seems more about your wedding than hers. I understand the thought behind it, but cash might be more appropriate in this scenario.
Post # 16
The sentiment is very nice, but I’d just go with the cash instead.