(Closed) Is this a good gift? Or offensive?

posted 6 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
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Honey bee

@Breen86:  I would not do it. It seems like self-serving gift. 

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Maybe just the cash would be a better idea? Cause I can totally see the “bringing your wedding idea” into it. Let her handle how she wants to handle the cash. That’s what I would do.

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@Breen86:  For Christmas this year from family friends, I got a gift certificate in the amount of two nights at the resort where the son is getting married next month. I teased him that if I didn’t go to his wedding then it was a pretty worthless gift, but in reality I thought it was a really nice gesture that suggested how important it was to that family that Darling Husband and I be able to make it! So I don’t think it would be taken badly at all — they will probably appreciate how much you value them, that you’d go out of your way to make sure they can make it to your wedding Smile

Post # 6
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Bumble bee

Personally, I wouldn’t do that. The gift can be seen as self-serving and in the interest of your wedding…not in celebration of hers. I am not saying that is how you intend it (of course!) – I think it’s lovely to think of her, but the gift should be something she and her husband can use or enjoy separately from your wedding.

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

What Soupy said.  It does seem self serving.  Give them money and if they want to use it for the B&B at your wedding, then great.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee

Not offensive and definitely a sweet idea but if it were me I’d feel like you were doing me a favor for your wedding, not buying me a gift for mine.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Maybe a night at a nice hotel for their wedding night, instead?  You could ask around if they have reservations anywhere yet.  Or an upgrade to a suite and breakfast the next day if they booked something.  Not paying that might make them more able to make the trip to your wedding. 

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2012

That might be taken the wrong way, I suggest you get them something else.

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

I would not give someone that as a wedding gift. But it would be a nice “because” gift when it’s time for you wedding. 

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Oops, I missed the part where this was a gift for their wedding … in that case, probably something that’s just for them to enjoy would be better …

Post # 13
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@almostmrsj:  I think that’s a great idea.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@SoupyCat:  Agreed.

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I agree, it seems more about your wedding than hers.  I understand the thought behind it, but cash might be more appropriate in this scenario. 

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

The sentiment is very nice, but I’d just go with the cash instead. 

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