Post # 1
Hi bees – looking for some advice. I’m really trying to limit all costs for my bridesmaids. The dresses I’m looking at are around $170-$180 (Alfred Angelo), but it looks like alterations will run another $60-90. I was really trying to keep dresses under $200, but if they went with these dresses I would make it very clear I don’t expect any gifts, etc.
How much were your bridesmaids dresses? Is the above price reasonable? I will obviously talk to my bridesmaids about it but I didn’t want to put out a crazy number to start.
Post # 2
Have you asked each bm in private what her budget is? $260 is too much for a dress imo,
Post # 3
Yeah, I hate to say this, but that is a little steep.. Would you be willing to pay for the alterations cost? I think that would make it fair, but definitely talk to your girls and see where their budgets are firsthand
Post # 4
It depends on your bridesmaids’ budgets. You should talk to each woman individually and figure out whose budget is the lowest and stick with that.
Post # 5
It’s more than I would want to spend on someone else’s wedding.
Post # 6
yeah you have to ask them what they’re comfortable spending one by one. Then subsidize her if you’re still going to select this expensive dress. Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses are generally around 100, so it is expensive for your one day.
Post # 7
I agree with PP, ask your Bridesmaid or Best Man. Other than that Can you find a dress or dresses that will not require alterations.
Post # 8
If I were your bridesmaid, I’d feel uncomfortable spending that amount. Could you contribute half the cost, maybe? Or pay for the alterations? Or post a pic here and we’ll see if we can find a lookalike?
Post # 9
It’s more than I would be comfortable spending on a ‘uniform’ that I’ll only wear once. IMO, if you’re dictating the dress, you can’t expect your bridesmaids to pay – that’s essentially asking them to fork out of their own pockets for your decorations.
Post # 10
Yeah. Not looking to spend $200+ on someone else’s wedding. I’m sure you would make it clear that you don’t expect gifts but let’s be real, they will still feel obligated to not only buy gifts but pitch in for showers, parties, hair, etc. That’s just too much for a dress that they will probably never wear again.
Post # 11
reasonableness depends on the person. I’d never spend that on a dress – I didn’t even spend that much on my own wedding gown. I think I paid 120 for the one I wore in my bestie’s wedding but I don’t recall being thrilled about it. I didn’t need alterations back then, aside from my mom hemming it.
Ask what their budget is and go from there.
Post # 12
The only time I spent over $150 on the dress it was for my sister’s wedding. I have to agree that it’s pretty steep.
Post # 13
I’ve paid that for a Bridesmaid or Best Man dress but it was off the rack and kind of stretchy so no alterations needed. That cost plus alterations would be a bit steep for me.
Post # 14
where do you live? i’ve never spent LESS than $150 on a Bridesmaid or Best Man dress, and for that wedding we then also had to buy specific $100 shoes, so it was really $250 for the outfit. (And I’ve spent as much as $400 on a Bridesmaid or Best Man dress). imo, $250-300 is a reasonable budget for a long gown, and $150-200 is reasonable for a short dress. but all that said, i live in a HCOL area
ETA: the $150 dress + $100 shoes also required $60 in alterations. so i guess it was really $310 all in for that one. and that’s the LEAST i’ve spent on a Bridesmaid or Best Man outfit.
Post # 15
I think it’s a bit much for most people.