Post # 46
I think it’s fine, I would have thought $200 -$300 was very much in the realm of normal. Just make sure you ask each girl her budget separately so they don’t feel pressured to say yay or nay in front of the other girls. My Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses are $600.
Post # 47
- Wedding: May 2017 - The Summit Country Day School Chapel/The Hilton Netherland Plaza Hall of Mirrors
My Bridesmaid or Best Man dress is $160. I am covering the cost of the dress but they are to cover any alterations. I would talk to your girls and ask what their budget is. What is expensive to someone on the 🐝 might be fine for them and vice versa.
Post # 48
$600, my god. Still I see from your past posts that at least you probably are only paying for two , not three of these. Such a pain though, that the MIA bm is the one who chose this pricy dress. I;d hoped you were able to get something more reasonably priced now you don’t have to cater to her!
Post # 49
Yep you need to have the budget conversation first and then look for dresses. Not the other way around.
Post # 50
I think $200 and under is totally reasonable. But I wouldn’t want to get it altered. What’s wrong with the fit off the rack?
Just read that you said it was for hemming. $60 is too expensive for hemming IMO
Post # 51
Mine are around 700$ each, so I’m paying for them. You need to talk to your friends, OP. Let them give you their budget, and if what you want is above that then just pay the difference.
Post # 52
I disagree with a lot of comments here and don’t think that’s abnormally expensive, especially for long dresses. Again, it totally depends on what each your girls can afford. Talk to each of them individually and see what they’re comfortable spending. Also, the cost of alterations depends a lot on the style of dress. Are the flowy chiffon dresses? Mine are and one of my bridesmaids only needs hers hemmed, and my Maid/Matron of Honor only needs hers taken in a little bit. Therefor, these alterations are much less than $60, which we were all happy about!
Post # 53
I would say less than $200 for the dress is reasonable for where I live ( Chicago Suburbs). Your prices are pretty average. But I would ask them what their comfortable with. I let my BM’s choose the dress in a color I chose ( I didnt care about the brand) so they basically dictated how much they spent.
The cheapest amount Ive ever spent was $100 and that was awesome.
Post # 54
You say your co-workers and friends say $200 is reasonable but the important people in this scenario are your BMs. Ask them each how much they are okay with spending and start your search with that in mind.
In my circle it’s normal to expect to pay $250-$300 for a dress so that’s the budget I usually plan for. However, from what I’ve seen on the bee, I guess this is considered high. I let my BMs choose their dress and they all agreed upon the same dress which came to about $200 with alterations.
ETA: I saw a bee ask why they need alterations. I have never been able to wear a Bridesmaid or Best Man dress of the rack due to my proportions and most of my friends also always get alterations with Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses. Most of my regular dresses and a few pairs of pants also must be altered which seems to be the norm among my female co-workers.
Post # 55
the “going rate in NYC” idea is this: the generally cost of living is much higher in NYC than, say, Kansas. Incomes, in general, are also higher. Thus, a $250 price tag on a dress is (relatively) much more palatable for someone living in NYC with a 150k income than someone living in Kansas with a 50k income. It’s also just in general not out of the norm to spend that much on clothes in NYC, whereas it might be more of a deviating other places in the country.
I wasn’t trying to say that the exact same dress from Nordstrom costs more in NYC than Kansas (though, in fact, once you factor in sales tax, it does). Rather, I was trying to say that the standard for what’s considered expensive/reasonable differs depending on where you live.
Post # 56
What we think isn’t relevant to your BM’s ability or desire to spend that amount.
Personally, I’ve always said if I wanted aBM dresses over $100-150 price range, it’s my responsiblity to cover anything over that amount.
Post # 57
I think its fine, but again its a know your crowd thing. I would have no problem with that amount.
Post # 58
Seems pretty normal to me….I would expect any long formal dress to cost me at least $150-200 (unless it was an amazing clearance sale but it’s hard to make that work for a group of bridesmaids)
Also as for the alterations I would shop around I have had gowns done for much less at a normal tailor shop ($35 for a hem or so) especially if you dress isn’t beaded…. Pretty much any decent tailor can hem a dress
To me/my circle (also NYC) I would say a dress that is $250-300 would be starting to push it and over $350 I would probably actually say something. For me, most formal dresses I have cost at least $250-300 and most of them have only been worn once, maybe twice since the best part of an event is finding a beautiful dress for it so I rarely rewear them anyways
Post # 59
The most important thing here is that you NEED to ask your bridesmaids their budgets.
Post # 60
The whole going rate by region thing is pretty dumb too. There are rich and poor people everywhere. I’m born and raised in NYC, thousands of super rich yuppies came in over the last two decades and raised the price of everything but there are still poor people, I grew up poor lol, I would never expect my BM’s to pay what the average is here. Anyway what I’m saying is, don’t rely on statistics or what you think people would pay for based on where they live, just ask them.