(Closed) Is this a lot for my Bridesmaids to pay?

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Should I offer to pay for more for my bridesmaids to offset their costs?
    Yes, dress/alterations/shoes/hotel are a LOT.. Offer to pay for their hair to help out! : (140 votes)
    47 %
    Yes, dress/alterations/shoes/hotel are a LOT.. Offer to pay for PART of their hair costs. : (37 votes)
    13 %
    Yes, dress/alterations/shoes/hotel are a LOT.. Offer to pay for something else [[Comment ideas]] : (14 votes)
    5 %
    No, buying their jewelry and clutch is plenty! : (25 votes)
    8 %
    No, paying for these things is part of being a bridesmaid! : (55 votes)
    19 %
    Maybe buy them an additional gift as a thank you! [[Comment ideas]] : (25 votes)
    8 %
  • Post # 3
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    1659 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    Woah, $90+ is a lot for hair! I think that’s everything else sounds reasonable but if I were a Bridesmaid or Best Man I’d be really, really annoyed to pay that much for hair. I think that since the salon is onsite and you aren’t giving them a choice, it would be appropriate to pay for the hair for the bridesmaids but everything else sounds par for the course.

    Post # 4
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    1832 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    Buy them a gift, if that gift is a gift card towards their hair, great! Other than that, its part of being a bridesmaid that you spend money.

    Post # 5
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    2335 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2018

    I think it’s generally considered courteous to tell your BMs what style you’d like their hair to be and let them do it themselves for free. If you want it done professionally, you should probably pay for that.

    It would be for *your* photos, after all. The BMs would probably be just as happy doing their own hair.

    I’m going to give my BMs the option of having our pro artist/hairstylist do their hair/makeup if they want to pay for it themselves, but I’m definitely not requiring it.

    Post # 6
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    237 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    The dress is the only thing they are responsible for paying for. If you are making hair appts for them and requiring them to get their hair done, then you should be paying for it.

    Post # 7
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    845 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    @lovelove1028: Oh my gosh. Wow. That’s really really costly!  

    Post # 10
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    3886 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    How much is the hotel? Can they not stay at their homes?

    Post # 11
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    9056 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2010

    That all seems pretty standard to me.  I think as long as the hair is optional, you shouldn’t have to pay for it.  I didn’t require hair to be done, but 3/4 of my bridesmaids opted to have it done professionally.  I don’t question the hair as a line item, but it just seems kind of pricey for a bridesmaids updo (and your hair for that matter) in general.  Are you super attached to your hairdresser, or are you willing to look elsewhere? 

    Post # 12
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    9917 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2013

    If you want your bridesmaids with you at the salon, you’re gonna have to pay.  Are you paying that much for your hair, too??  That is soooo much!

    Post # 13
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    1659 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    @lovelove1028:  That’s fine; if you aren’t requiring it then you don’t have to pay for it. If they won’t be in the salon with you due to the cost, then you’ll need to understand but maybe they’ll be okay with the price.

    Post # 15
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    23 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: December 2013

    WOAH! I think $180 for a dress, plus alterations, shoes, and then $90 for hair is a LOT to expect the girls to pay! I think offering to pay for the hair would be a great option.

    Post # 16
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    3175 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I understand that you’re not requiring it, but if you’re strongly encouraging them to get their hair done with you, then you should really pay for it. I think the other costs are to be expected, so I wouldn’t worry about it. 

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