(Closed) Is this a lot to spend on a bridal shower?

posted 5 years ago in Parties
  • poll: Is $350 a lot for a bridesmaid to contribute to a shower?
    yes : (158 votes)
    84 %
    no : (13 votes)
    7 %
    depends : (17 votes)
    9 %
  • Post # 46
    316 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    That is an insane amount to pay! For mine, we just had a reservation at a nice tea place and each had to pay the amount of whatever food we bought. Couldn’t have been more than $20 per person.

    Post # 48
    355 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2016

    Where I am we do larger bridal showers (depending on the ethnicity of the couple as well). I’m pretty white bread (ukranian and scottish) but the fiance is Italian. 

    I would have no problem seeing our bridal shower (likely around 100 people) being $4,000.00 (roughly).

    That being said, I can expect that my girls may contribute to helping set up/ tear down, games, receiving line, mingling, speaches, but financially, this is not their responsiblity. This will likely be ‘gifted’ to us by the mom’s but even if it is not, it will be something that we factor into the whole situation. 

    I am a lawyer and have been working for 6 years. Financially, I could ‘in theory’ pay $350.00 for a shower. That being said, i’m not likely to do that. That seems excessive to ask a bridesmaid. Since I wouldn’t ask mine, I wouldn’t recommend going along with that. 

    It seems like your bride is out of touch with reality and so is her sister. 

    If they want an expensive shower, go ahead, but don’t expect everyone to foot the bill for it. 

    Bridesmaids are supposed to support (i’m of the belief that this support is more emotional than financial) the bride. I am shocked you are being asked this. 


    Post # 49
    355 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2016

    In addition to my earlier reply, please come back and update us on how you broke the news (please tell me you did! )



    Post # 50
    1181 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    That’s way too much!  Did the bride not consider the cost before booking this venue?  I think her Maid/Matron of Honor and mother should be paying for this expense!

    Post # 51
    7200 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2015

    SunnierDaysAhead:  You’ve had a lot of responses, but I just wanted to say I cohosted a baby shower a while back and the mother-to-be insisted on a specific venue…. and paid for it. That is the way this should have gone. My Maid/Matron of Honor is planning a lovely shower and I have absolutely no say in anything because it’s a gift to me- not something I dictate! You should have all been consulted by the Maid/Matron of Honor on everything and talked about a mutually acceptable budget. 

    Post # 52
    393 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

    SunnierDaysAhead:  That’s a lot of money if you can’t afford it. Personally, I wouldn’t want to spend $350 on ‘bridesmaid duties’ especially since you may have to pay for your dress. However, if you were part of an affluent group, it wouldn’t be too much. 

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