Post # 32
My ex worked nights and would constantly wake me up when he got home! DROVE ME NUTS! On the other hand, it really bothered him that I didn’t want to get up and eat breakfast with him. I guess we both saw it differently, and we were both hurt by it.
I wouldn’t call it a red flag…
Post # 33
Thanks everyone, helps to hear your perpectives, especially those who’ve worked nights or who have had a partner work nights. I think I was worried that the fact he was ignoring my requests to not be woken up might be a sign he didn’t respect my boundaries or needs as much as my own. I see now (w your help) that he just wants to connect and misses me, so I’ll be going to bed earlier. The drinking thing is not his issue, it’s mine, I’ve told him about my fam history with drinking but he doesn’t think others’ mistakes should punish him. I do not think he is an alcoholic, just worry when I see anything that might indicate a move in that direction. For me, drinking at 7am seemed like alchy behavior, but again, with your help I see it is pretty normal for folks on night schedules. Whew, thank goodness for the beehive.
Post # 34
Sleep deprivation is a red flag for me.