Post # 1
My mom accidentally told me about my bf wanting to propose to me. I wasn’t suppose to know because he wanted to surprise me. He has just recently asked my parents to marry me, and they really approve of him. He did show them the ring he bought for me. We chose the diamond & setting on James Allen, but I’m not suppose to know when & where he is going to propose. I asked my mom what did she think of the ring. She says it looks nice but not the best to her taste. She did say that my bf is very happy with the ring, and thinks they did a good job. She is also afraid he may have overpaid for it because I told her that the ring is around 6k. Her comments on the ring was that the setting did not luster as much, of course we went with platinum, and the diamonds in the setting are small for her taste. The center diamond looks big facing up but she said the depth of the diamond looks thin. The diamond we like is an oval diamond so we tried to pick one that was in ideal proportions, which I thought the depth being 59.4% & table 60% would make it a perfect diamond. Now my mom says that the diamond’s depth look thin to her eyes. Now I’m nervous of how the ring will look. My bf is really happy with it according to her, and I think he has good taste when it comes to beauty & quality. I just need opinions about the diamond & setting. I want this ring to be perfect for us because it is something I want to wear forever.
Here is the diamond:
And the setting:
Post # 2
I think your Mom should keep her negativity to herself.
Post # 3
Numbers on fancy cuts aren’t always informative. I think I mentioned this on your last thread, but it’s too bad he didn’t ask for an ASET image from James Allen (which they will provide for free). Do you know if he asked the gemologists at James Allen if the stone was “eye-clean?”
Post # 4
Ovals usually are more shallow then other cuts like round, cushion, princess, etc.. I think it looks beautiful and I’m sure you will love it! Ovals arnt for everyone’s taste. I think your mom needs to stop the negative comments and let you enjoy this special time. Also 6k is not over priced for that ring, it’s actually a decent price!
Post # 5
I am your mom’s age and have only these positive things to say as an oval lover:
1) ovals ROCK! LOVE ME those ovals! It’s my new favorite shape
2) I don’t know anything about the precision specs of the cut having to do with depth, but I DO know from looking at your oval that it is a very pleasing oval shape as it faces up. To me, it’s just about perfect! Some of them are too skinny at both ends, trending toward marquis. Others have broad “shoulders” (my term) that make them look a little like a cushion cut. Still others are too long, the proportions just aren’t right.
You’s is a perfect shape, there, I said it again.
3) Your FI is super smart to get one that is just a hair below 1c. That is usually a good value.
4) Your halo setting is pretty. It’s not something that I would chose for my oval, but I like it! I like the surrounding diamonds in bezel settings (I really like bezels)
5) Platinum is a good choice, I love my 100 year old plat family ring.
Sweetie, I’m sorry that your mom put a damper on your excitement about your ring. I’ll bet it’s beautiful. And you know what? It’s not going to be perfect. These stones are unique pieces of the earth and they all have their flaws–that’s how we get to know them and love them. Your ring has SO many nice things going for it that I’m certain you will enjoy it.
Post # 6
MsDub: I think moms need to be more supportive and use their filters more. My mom and I don’t have similar tastes at all. I think it’s a LOVELY ring and if YOU love it that’s all that matters. Truly. Truly. Truly!
Post # 7
MsDub: ugh i don’t get why your mom was like that? my mom and i have TOTALLY different tastes- i’m sure she wouldn’t have chosen my ring for herself. but she has always said that it’s gorgeous and very “me”- which i’m taking as a compliment lol. we got a moissanite (my choice), and she agreed that it was a great choice for me because i’ve never wanted a diamond. his mother had different views, and i wish my DH hadn’t told her because i’m sure she’s badmouthed our decision to other family members. oh well! i love my ring and that’s what matters! do you think you’ll get your ring within any return periods? before DH proposed, he let me see my ring so that i was sure i loved it (and the moissanite) while he could still return it.
i love the diamond (ovals are my favorite cut!! and your proportions look great in my non-expert opinion) and the setting is really gorgeous and unique. i love both!
Post # 8
Your mom should learn to use a little tact when dealing with such an important moment in someone’s life.
Post # 9
I think the diamond you picked is beautiful! With fancy cuts there are recommendations for depth/table ratio but that does not mean if you have a diamond that falls within that rage it will have maximum light reflection. This is why GIA does not grade the cut for an oval because it can vary.
You diamond does have a lot of “spread” but this could be a good thing as your diamond will appear like a 1 carat stone. Generally the table is smaller then the depth so that may be what is throwing your Mom off. But I wouldn’t worry too much about it ovals naturally have more spread then other cuts. James Allen has a good return policy too.
I recently took my ring that I purchased from JA to get apraisal from an independent jeweler because I didn’t believe the one that was sent from JA. My ring actually apraised more then what JA said it would. I’m pretty sure you got a great deal!
Post # 10
MsDub: Nice job Mom! Way to ruin the surprise and make an exciting and happy occasion nerve-wracking! Smh! She really should’ve kept her mouth CLOSED!
I’m sure your ring will be gorgeous. I LOVE your setting and I adore ovals so I can’t wait to see it!! I would just trust yourself and your FI over what your mom days. Try to let her comments go in one ear and out of the other because they were very inappropriate.
Post # 11
Smile and nod. Then carry on and ignore her. Seriously, is your mother a gemologist? An accredited expert? Then she should take a seat. I’m sorry but I think she’s being HORRIBLE! Maybe something else is going on with her, but I think it is really mean and insensitive of her to take away from your delight like this… Congratulations on your engagement and your ring is beautiful!!!
Post # 12
TheLadyA : My thoughts exactly (though your phrasing was a little kinder)!
Post # 13
<br />I think you need to ignore your mom. That’s what I do when mine is overly negative.
Post # 14
- Wedding: March 2014 - A castle
MsDub: supposed to* sorry it was really bothering me.
Anyways, I really like the setting you chose and I think that diamond will be gorgeous in it. Who cares how deep it is? You only see what faces up anyways. I think it will be lovely, don’t listen to your mom.
Post # 15
Ovals are usually a shallower stone than other cuts so they face up large. I have one and I absolutely love it!!! My mom and sis also didn’t have the best reactions to my ring – it was sad for me for a long time that they didnt have an awesome reaction but now i have no worries. I’ve never ever seen an oval diamond that looked “too shallow” yours will look perfect and your specs are great!!!!