Post # 1
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Worker bee
Although I do have a side of me that enjoys a good night out on the town every now and then, I generally prefer staying at home to going out. I find that sometimes I make plans with people, and end up canceling them last minute because I can’t be bothered to get ready. This affects my work sometimes too, because although I am entitled to sick days, I normally use them when I am physically well but I don’t feel like getting out of bed. I don’t know what causes it but I simply dread going out sometimes. I’ve got a mental filing cabinet for all of my excuses. I want to stay home, but I still feel really bad about letting people down, so I often push myself for their sakes. When I’m out, I long to go home asap. If I didn’t have to work, I’m not sure I’d ever want to leave my house.
My husband thinks I should be checked for depression, but I don’t feel depressed. I just feel like maybe I’m really lazy. I’m not motivated to do much other than things I can do at home. I also like people and spending time with them, as long as it’s at home. So I don’t think it’s social anxiety disorder. Does anyone else have feelings like this? Is it really a sign of depression?
Post # 2
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Busy bee
Trevor.Philips: I love people but was diagnosed with social phobia so unfortunately the two can go hand in hand. I think that if your behaviour is worrying you then it would be good to see your GP to discuss your concerns.
I can relate to your feelings a lot and hope you get the support you need to get through this. Hugs!
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
Trevor.Philips: Maybe you are just an introvert.
Post # 4
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1082 posts
Bumble bee
Yeah, sounds like you’re just a homebody/introvert. I am the same way.
I’d only be concerned if this was new behavior.
Post # 5
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7365 posts
Busy Beekeeper
That doesn’t sound like depression to me. I agree you’re probably an introvert. The older I get my bed is my sanctuary. I’m quick to cancel plans as well, going out takes effort and I may not want to be bothered. But when I do go out I enjoy myself.
Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
Actually, I think this does sound like it could be depression. You are probably an introvert as well (and I can relate, I would pretty much always rather be at home, too), but the fact that you have used sick days simply because you didn’t want to get out of bed is a red flag. I would recommend that you talk to a doctor or get screened at a clinic for depression. It couldn’t hurt and it might help.
Post # 7
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Sugar bee
Trevor.Philips: If it causes you significant distress or is impairing your functioning that’d be concerning but it sounds like you manage your life successfully. Now if your relationship with your husband or your employer is damaged as a result that wound imply that your preferences are problematic. Please don’t talk to a GP or PCP, 90% of the time they will diagnose and prescribe without clinical justification based purely on your own self-diagnosis. I recommend not jumping to meds until it’s a last resort. For example, routine exercise has been proven to improve mood more than anti-depressants for most people but Pfizer doesn’t want you to know that (24 hour fitness should put it in their ads!) Good luck!