(Closed) Is this a stupid reason to postpone my wedding?

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Post # 17
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Don’t let your weight control your life! Get married! ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 18
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@AudzinLuv: I’m so sorry you’re feeling bad about things. I can identify with feeling emotional and sometimes down on myself during that certain time of the month. I don’t think you should postpone your wedding. As one previous poster noted, your fiance loves you and thinks you’re beautiful (and wants to marry you!) for who you are and just as you are. I think that you can come close to reaching your goal weight in a healthy way. My mom lost close to the amount of weight that you want to lose, and she did it naturally (no supplements, no surgery, etc.) and at a steady rate…and she has kept the weight off for years! Here are my suggestions…

  1. As a previous poster noted, set small, manageable goals. Know that your overall goal is to lose the 70-80 pounds, but set a small goal for each week – and only that week. At the end of the week, celebrate your accomplishment of the goal! ๐Ÿ™‚
  2. At the beginning of each week, in addition to setting a small goal, plan out your meals and workouts for the week. As the saying goes, “if you fail to plan, you plan to fail.” Know eactly what you will eat for each meal and each snack during the week (not as daunting as it may sound; it doesn’t take long). Know exactly which days you will work out and what you will do (e.g., Monday-Friday, walk on the treadmill or at the track for 20 minutes, etc.).
  3. With regard to portion control, I have never done Weight Watchers, but I’ve heard great things about it. Also, a food scale will work wonders for giving you a realistic view of what a normal portion size is (and giving you a stopping point). Also, have a plan for what you will do in place of eating when you experience various emotions that would normally cause emotional overeating (e.g., when you’re lonely, you’ll write a letter to a friend; when you’re sad, you’ll pull out a journal and list all the things you’re grateful for; when you’re bored, you’ll do an activity that you enjoy; etc.).
  4. Find an accountability partner. Whether it’s someone on the boards or a friend or family member, find someone who can hold you accountable to the small goals (and actions) that you’ve designated for the week.

I agree with the poster that indicated that it sucks that the wedding industry complex causes women to feel bad about themselves and how they look, but I also agree with the poster who said that you should consider making this an overall life goal instead of just a goal for the wedding. I wish you luck and I hope this helps!

Post # 19
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Bumble bee

OMG! You can do this. All I have to say is P90X and Michi’s ladder. If you follow this workout regimine and diet plan you will be more than in shape for your wedding!!!!!

It will be hard work, but you don’t need anything but a few free weights and that’s it. I did the P90X lean and I feel AMAZING! I have always worked out, but I wanted to tone up for my wedding and this is the best.

Good luck, just stay focused and motivated. If you want it you will get it. this is a 3 month program, so you will have plenty of time.

Just a suggestion. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 21
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

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@AudzinLuv: so glad you pulled yourself out of your funk.

You are going to that dress appointment tomorrow and you are going to rock those dresses girl! 

Post # 22
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2006

OMG seriously 2lb in a week is amazing!!  That’s the highest amount that doc’s recommend in one week (shows like Biggest Loser are sooo unreasonable).  I lost 40lb about 10 years ago in 6 months doing about 2lb/week, so YOU CAN DO IT!!

I gained much of the weight back over college and the ultimate in making you gain weight, grad school, so right now I’m losing again.  I use the free application LoseIt! on my iPod and it is fantastic!  It sounds exactly like My Fitness Pal, only it’s portable so you never forget to log in your food.  And it saves your meals so if you eat the same thing for breakfast everyday, you just add the previous day’s breakfast instead of re-selecting everything every day.

Post # 23
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

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@AudzinLuv: Congrats on the 2-lb. weight loss!!! That’s a great, healthy amount of weight to lose in a week! I hope you have an amazingly awesome dress fitting! ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 24
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Just focus on becoming a healthy eater. Make a lifestyle change. The weight will start to shed automatically. That is what happened with me. I wanted to lose weight in around Aug 2010. By October 2010, I had reduced 10 lbs. Then I started doing P90x (though not following their meal plan), but continued to lose weight and then lost another 10 lbs by December 2010. My focus was not really on the scale. There was a whole month where I was stagnant. My focus was just on feeling and eating healthier. The weight loss was a side benefit. I feared that if I focus TOO MUCH on losing the weight, I will definitely screw myself over. I also did not meet my goal but I was off by 3 lbs only. However, I still hadn’t reached the goal even though I gave myself 5 months to lose 25 lbs. That was very liberal timing. The only reason I wasn’t upset was 1) I felt a whole lot healthier, and 2) I could ‘see’ the results I was getting with P90x and the firming and toning kept me giddy! (I’m still doing the workouts!) I’m only halfway through it. And it already helped SO MUCH!!!

I do skip days occassionally, I also do eat chocolate and/or cake as the occassion calls for it. But definitely, DEFINITELY portion control especially in these fattenining objects.

And yes, I bought my dress before I lost half of the weight. I bought it with a corset back and that was an intelligent move in my opinion.

Post # 25
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I think you can lose the weight you want by September.  You lost two pounds already, and you have 32 weeks to go.  If you keep that rate up you can loose 64 to 70 pounds in a healthy way.  Like others have said, loving yourself is most important, but if it will make you feel better to lose the weight than do it.  What’s stopping you?  Nothing, you can do it!  Just stay dedicated and try not to miss a workout session.  If you miss one it will be easy to slack of the next day, and then the next, so stay dedicated.  Good Luck!

Post # 26
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

First of all, you are beautiful no matter how much you weight.  You need to recognize that.

September is over 7 months away.  I joined Weight Watchers with 75# to loose about 6 years ago, and had lost over 60# within 7 months.  It IS doable.

Also, read this blog post.  It resonated so much with me when I read it.

http://apracticalwedding.com/2010/07/a-way-to-weigh-what-you-weigh-when-you-wed/

Post # 27
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Hi OP!  I am in the same boat!  I’ll just tell it like it is- I weight 180 and I want to be 150… or preferably 145 on my wedding day.  I’m 5’2″.  I’d like to lose this weight by July 31st and then maintain until the wedding on August 20th.  It has been a battle for sure.

Since Thanksgiving I have lost 5 pounds. I did it mainly by trying to reduce my alcohol intake and counting calories on spark people. 

Sometimes I panic, thinking I am never going to get the 30 pounds off by July.  I decided to do little goals to keep myself more organized. 

By the end of January- 175.  By the end of February- 170.  By the end of the March- 165.  By the end of April- 160.  By the end of May- 155.  By the end of June- 150.  By the end of July- 145.  Even if I only make it to 150, I will be happy.

You have all my support!!!!   I know we can do it.  I have tons of friends who have lost a significant amount of weight and kept it off… I know we can do this.  And just so you know, I already went dress shopping, even at this weight.  I had to order a size 16.  But I found a dress I LOVED and I was very pleased with the whole experience (I had been DREADING it because of my weight.) 

Best of luck!!!!!

Post # 28
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

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@missrobots: What an awesome blog post!

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