Post # 1
One of my bridesmaids is getting married a month and a half after me and I am also in her wedding. She, for whatever reason, likes to be in charge and wanted full control over the details of her bridal shower. So she ended up booking her shower exactly a week before my wedding. Is this weird? I’m not really mad about it but I guess I kind of feel bad because I feel like I may be really busy and stressed then. My 2 friends and fiance are kind of mad because there were many other days she could have booked it. Especially since we planned on having a rehersal dinner the sat before our wedding. She was told about this but booked it the day after anyway. We could do a weeknight rehersal but my fiance’s best man is in a is far away for work all week. He is only able to be home on sat and sun. Also my fiance’s family is flying in a week early to be at our rehersal dinner the week before, so we don’t really want to schedule that any earlier. Was it sort of inconsiderate of her?
Maybe I should mention that she got engaged a month or two before me and I went ahead and booked my wedding before hers. I asked her and our bridesmaids if this would be ok and they all said yes that they did not care. I did not do it to be difficult or spiteful. I really want a outdoor, spring wedding and it was just the best time for my fiance and I to book it. was I wrong in doing this? Opinions please?
Post # 3
Use it as a moment to relax – no big deal!
Post # 4
One of my bridesmaids is getting married a month and a half after me …. So she ended up booking her shower exactly a week before my wedding. Is this weird
so her shower is 7 weeks before her wedding – i wouldnt have a problem with it. its not convenient to your plans but that doesnt make her plans/wedding any less important
Post # 5
Is that the ettique? To have the bridal shower 7 weeks before the wedding? I certainly do not feel that her wedding is any less important than mine. On the contrary. I feel as though she probably could have been a little more considerate to me and our same 4 bridesmaids who are in both of our weddings, by taking a date that was slightly further away. Usually bridesmaids all have a say in the date of the bridal shower that they are paying for.
Post # 6
Taking a couple of hours off the week before your wedding will not cause any issue I promise. Take some time to unwind eat a meal and have a drink. Relax and enjoy having an excuse to have a little time off.
Post # 7
@kokoni7: 7 weeks is pretty standard. Although she probably should have checked with her bridesmaids, she also needs to plan it around her schedule, her family, the location of the shower, etc. That could have been the only date that worked for the majority of guests.
Post # 8
I’ll give you the response you’re looking for that yes it was a tad bit inconsiderate. She could have waited until after your wedding so you could go and be stress free, and not focused on your upcoming big day. I think that would’ve worked out better for everyone anyway. That being said, just do what PP’s said and use it as a time to relax! It’ll only be a few hours out of the day, it’s not going to be that big of a deal!
Post # 9
@kokoni7: Nothing you can do about it now, but how about you have your rehearsal dinner on the opposite day instead? If she is having the shower on a Saturday, have your rehearsal dinner on Sunday, and vice versa. I think it is a little inconsiderate, but friends, even good friends, often look to do what is convenient for themselves sometimes. Don’t stress it.
Post # 10
Thank you for the insight ladies. So you do not think it is just too much to have my rehersal dinner the sat night before my friends shower? I do not want to overwhelm our bridesmaids with SO much wedding stuff in that short period of time.
Post # 11
The answer is: IT doesn’t matter if it was rude or inconsiderate. You will have to make accomodations for her shower, whether it means rescheduling your Rehearsal Dinner or inconveniencing the other BM’s who are in both weddings.
Personally I think your Rehearsal Dinner should still happen on that Saturday, it will be a crazy weekend but if that’s the date everyone had been planning on then just go with it. A Rehearsal Dinner is more important than a shower, so you definitely don’t want to reschedule that.