(Closed) is this a weird thing for a bride and bridemaid to do?

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
764 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Use it as a moment to relax – no big deal!

Post # 4
5993 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

One of my bridesmaids is getting married a month and a half after me …. So she ended up booking her shower exactly a week before my wedding.  Is this weird

so her shower is 7 weeks before her wedding – i wouldnt have a problem with it. its not convenient to your plans but that doesnt make her plans/wedding any less important

Post # 6
5670 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

Taking a couple of hours off the week before your wedding will not cause any issue I promise. Take some time to unwind eat a meal and have a drink. Relax and enjoy having an excuse to have a little time off.

Post # 7
3943 posts
Honey bee

@kokoni7: 7 weeks is pretty standard. Although she probably should have checked with her bridesmaids, she also needs to plan it around her schedule, her family, the location of the shower, etc. That could have been the only date that worked for the majority of guests.

Post # 8
491 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I’ll give you the response you’re looking for that yes it was a tad bit inconsiderate. She could have waited until after your wedding so you could go and be stress free, and not focused on your upcoming big day. I think that would’ve worked out better for everyone anyway. That being said, just do what PP’s said and use it as a time to relax! It’ll only be a few hours out of the day, it’s not going to be that big of a deal!

Post # 9
1418 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@kokoni7: Nothing  you can do about it now, but how about you have your rehearsal dinner on the opposite day instead? If she is having the shower on a Saturday, have your rehearsal dinner on Sunday, and vice versa. I think it is a little inconsiderate, but friends, even good friends, often look to do what is convenient for themselves sometimes. Don’t stress it.

Post # 11
6661 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

The answer is: IT doesn’t matter if it was rude or inconsiderate. You will have to make accomodations for her shower, whether it means rescheduling your Rehearsal Dinner or inconveniencing the other BM’s who are in both weddings.

Personally I think your Rehearsal Dinner should still happen on that Saturday, it will be a crazy weekend but if that’s the date everyone had been planning on then just go with it. A Rehearsal Dinner is more important than a shower, so you definitely don’t want to reschedule that.

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