(Closed) is this abuse or am I over reacting

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
8102 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2010

Yes, it’s abuse and you absolutely must tell your doctor the truth.  Has he spoken to you so disrespectfully before?

Post # 4
2622 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Generally, if you have to even ask, then yes it is abuse in some form. Is this the first time he has acted like this?

In my life I have lived by two rules I expect my boyfriends/husband to live by. that is no name calling and no physical touching with the intent to harm me. He did both. In my book that is not OK and I would not accept it.

Post # 5
890 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Yes abuse abuse abuse…get away from him. He sounds like no good. You deserve better and no one should EVER put their hands on you.

Post # 6
902 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

That’s all kinds of abuse there..

Verbal for calling you just awful names and Physical for what he did to your arm and wrist not to mention emotional abuse for having to deal with it at all

I’m sorry this happened to you but if I were you I would leave him before he hurts you worse. 

I was in an abusive relationship that started out as “joking” and then got to the point where he would only bruise me where my clothes would cover it..

Get out while you can

Post # 7
353 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Scaring you and hurting you IS abuse. No matter what he says before, during, or after.


Please get help.  Do you have family or friends you can stay with?

Post # 8
9201 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

That is most definitely verbal and physical abuse.  If he’ll insult and injure you so easily over you just asking him about a muffin, imagine what he’s capable of when he’s actually truly pissed off about something.  This is not a healthy or safe relationship from what you’ve described.  Every woman deserves a partner who respects and loves them enough to NEVER, not even once, do what he did.  Please leave ASAP!  It can only get worse, especially since he seemed so nonchalant about the whole thing  Frown

Post # 9
7738 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Physical abuse and verbal abuse.

Tell your doctor the truth. If it’s not abuse then there’s no harm in telling the truth. The fact that you want to lie to the doctor means you know it’s wrong.

Post # 10
3174 posts
Sugar bee

That’s abuse. Get help now. Go stay with a friend or family member.

Post # 11
1716 posts
Bumble bee

Please here me out, you in no way deserved anything that he did to you and what he did is abuse in every way.

I’m just urgeing you to be carefull, you should never ever cross the touch barrier during a disagreement. When you put your hand over his mouth, it seemed like he felt challenged. So please, during any interaction you have with him in the future, I urge you not to touch him.

You should leave as soon as you can.

Post # 13
2287 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: Central Park

So many red flags here! Think back long and hard. Is this really the first instance?

Post # 14
152 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Like PPs have said, yes! That is abuse and in many different forms, physical and emotional. I suggest cooling down and then having a conversation with your SO.

Personally, I would never stand for someone ever doing that to me. Whether it was a partner, SO, Fiance or husband!

This sends a huge red flag up, and I strongly suggest rethinking this relationship.

A post was beautifully written today about not being afraid to end it and leave. Yes, it is scary, yes it will be hard, and yes it will hurt, but it will be so worth it when this person is no longer in your life hurting you both emotionally and physically.


Good luck.


Post # 15
11391 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

YES! In more ways than one that is ABUSE!

Post # 16
7902 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

It is abuse and you should not lie to your doctor.

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