(Closed) is this abuse or am I over reacting

posted 8 years ago in Relationships
Post # 137
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Yes!!! That is total abuse!!! Verbal abuse, mental abuse, and physical abuse!! No one deserves to be treated like that…my advice, get out of that relationship….yikes..sorry you had to deal with that! 🙁

Post # 138
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2019 - Canada

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@helpmetoknowhwtsbest:  Hey OP, I really hope you are well. There’s a lot of really lovely concerned bees out here who would really love to hear how you’ve been. Hope you can stop in  with an update soon 🙂

Post # 139
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2009 - Mountain Meadow/Mansion

I haven’t read the thread all the way through up until this point, but I volunteer at a shelter for survivors of domestic abuse and, if someone called (I generally take calls on our hotline), I would advise them to make a plan and to get out of the relationship. I am so sorry you are going through this!

Post # 140
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2009 - Mountain Meadow/Mansion

I also just saw that this is an old thread; OP, I do hope you’re okay! We’d love to hear from you!

Post # 141
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I know this is old, but since ppl keep reading it, I wanted to add that, if you feel like you should talk to friends/family less or that you shouldn’t tell friends/family/doctors the truth about what your SO has done or said to you, that’s a sign of abuse. 

Also- if you’d tell a cop or hurry to tell a friend if someone on the street did the same thing to you, then it’s probably abuse.

 

Post # 142
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I’m truly sorry for what you’ve had to go through with this man and I truly think that in your heart you know what  he did is wrong. I also believe you honestly do not enjoy it at all when he tells you to F off and insults you. I was once in such a relationship and I put up with it for more than four years until one day my mom got very sick and that made me realize how short life is and that I did not deserved to be in a relationship in which deep down in my heart I was not happy. This man I was with was physically and mentally abusive to me and despite this, I kept believing that he had good qualities and that is why I would not get out of the relationship. One day my best friend who knew about how this jerk was treating me told me one thing that really woke me up. She said: You obviously do not love yourself because if you did, you would not stay in this relationship. I’ve never forgotten what my best friend said to me. I’ve since then learned to love myself and not to accept any crap from any man.

 

Post # 143
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Newbee

How’s it going? That is abuse. Honestly I wouldn’t bother with him. But that’s your decision, not ours. Good luck sweetie, and the bees have got your back.

Post # 144
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Get out get out get out! It’s abuse! 

Post # 145
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

in a healthy relationship, you don’t stop loving each other, even if you’re mad. definitely abuse. I think my FH would actually cry if he realized he hurt me in any way, and would immediately apologize. His daughter and you should both get out of that relationship and tell you’re closest friends or relatives what happened.

Post # 146
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

I’d say thats 100% abuse, if it was me, i’d run for the hills and not look back, better to be safe than sorry imo 🙂

 

Thinking of you, and if you need anything we’re all here xx

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