(Closed) Is this acceptable?

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
201 posts
Helper bee

The rule I think is common is the “engaged or living together” rule for plus 1’s. That might make it easier to make a decision, especially if youre trying to prune the guest list a bit!

Post # 4
7975 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

I think the rule listed above works well – but I would advise waiting to worry about these things. Your guestlist will inevitably change by the time you get closer to the wedding. If you’re sending Save-The-Date Cards out, you can be vague in the names on them, and you don’t have to send them to everyone – we only sent ours to Out of Town guests and it saved us a lot of headaches when we ended up having to cut some people later, because there was a section of our list that we realized were only there because they were local, and we weren’t as close to them as to others who lived further away. Fortunately, we hadn’t send Save-The-Date Cards to everyone and could easily trim those people without offending.

Post # 5
1041 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

The engaged or living together rule is a good one but if you really cant afford the extra people I think it will be ok to exclude partners, especially if you dont know them personally.  As long as they know other people and are not traveling from out of town, they should be able to leave the boyfriends at home for the night.

My Fiance has been invited to several weddings by coworkers, before we were engaged but were living together, and i was not invited and i was fine with it.

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