- 5 years ago
I am posting this anonymously, of course. My fiance and I have been together for almost 6.5 years now. The first couple years we fought a lot, even screemed at eachother – we were NEVER physical though. I caught him “flirting” with other girls in the beginning. Then we went years without having any of those issues, only little ‘spats’ here and there like ‘normal’. He joined the army and was gone for the first 6 months of 2012 (we got engaged in shortly before). Before he left, he created a fake account on facebook and was talking to everyone is seemed like – flirting. He used fake photos that he, I’m guessing, found on google. He also send those fake, some naked, photos to people. I caught it when he got back after those 6 months, and again two other times with different account – he’d even make fake girl accounts! What the hell?? Then he got really bad and he started texting people as himself, flirting with them, talking about sexual things, and sending fake photos – I never caught him sending ones of himself and he says that he never has. It seemed like every month or two I would find something and my whole world would come crashing down again. He denied it for a while, and then finally admitted everything. He says that it’s an addiction and that he’s tried almost everything to stop. That he can’t do it on his own, he needs my help, together. (I hear this every single time something comes up.) Well, “I can’t help you if you’re not willing to help yourself.” It has been about 3 or 4 months and well, nothing else. I monitor his facebook, and keep an eye on what he does on his phone. To me, he isn’t doing it anymore. We’re really happy, don’t have big fights, and it seems like everything is normal. We’re planning our wedding. He is the love of my life and I can’t picture it without him. I consider what he did cheating. He says that he has NEVER cheated on me on a physical level, and that he hasn’t done anything else since that last time. I’m willing to answer pretty much any question you throw at me. Do you think he actually cheated on me while he was in Basic/AIT? I’m just needing some feedback and reassurance. Is this a real addiction? He says he has no self esteem/self confidence. I always try to tell him thank you for things he does and give him compliments. Or is he just full of shit? Some days I feel like I’m just crap and don’t ‘pleasure’ him so he has to go find a different way to. Sex.. yeah that’s a completely different topic in our relationship.