(Closed) IS THIS AN APPROPRIATE GAP BETWEEN CHURCH CEREMONY AND RECEPTION?

posted 6 years ago in Ceremony
  • poll: What time should ceremony start?

    1:30 sounds appropriate

    2:00

    2:30

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  • Post # 2
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

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    Cheekie0077:  I am in the minority on WeddingBee, but I don’t think any amount of gap is appropriate, other than the time it takes to travel to the venue. So if the venue is an hour away and the ceremony ends at 2:30 – cocktail hour should start at 3:30 and you and your Fiance should arrive by 4:30. Cocktail hour is not meant for you and your Fiance to enjoy, it is meant to host your guests while you are busy taking pictures. You could do an entrance and first dance at 4:30, serve dinner at 5. 

    Other issues I’m seeing: why won’t your ceremony be punctual? If your invites tell your guests that your ceremony is at 1:30, the processional should start at 1:30. 

    If you tell guests to go to the reception bar, are you going to be buying their drinks and hosting them? You should also provide food because empty stomachs + alcohol = trouble. No one wants to go home in between the ceremony and the reception, what are they going to do – sit around in their nice clothes? Change and have to get dressed again later? 

    Post # 3
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    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I would have as small a gap as possible.  As a guest, I find the gap rude.  I know they are necessary many times with church weddings, but extending it several hours for the ease of taking pictures hits a nerve for me.  

    If you are nervous about traffic, you should do a dry run on another Saturday to see how long it would take for your guests.  Regardless of the length of the gap, I’d be pissed to spend 90 minutes getting to a reception.  If you’re banking on the bar in the venue to entertain your guests, I’d most certainly make sure you’re also covering that bar tab.

    Post # 5
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    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

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    Cheekie0077:  Traffic sucks.  I live in DC, where I commute downtown every day.  I’ve been to numerous downtown DC weddings where we’ve crossed the city to get between church and the venue.  So I get it.  But I wouldn’t give an absurd gap to a wedding in fear of traffic, because if the traffic isn’t too bad, people are going to be really annoyed about having to wait hours for you to show up

    Post # 7
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2014

    As a guest, honestly, if I was invited to a 1pm ceremony and a 6pm reception, I’d seriously consider ditching the ceremony, which I know is bad manners blah blah blah but I’m not going to want to dress up, then change so I don’t mess up my nice clothes, sit around a while, and then get dressed up again. If the reception is 6:30 and the ceremony lasts 1 hour, I’d start the ceremony no earlier than 5:00, assuming it takes 15 minutes oR so to get in between venues.

    Post # 9
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    Buzzing Beekeeper

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    Cheekie0077:  You should definitely give people time to get to the reception venue. I don’t think anyone is arguing about that. But the reasons you give for thinking about having a longer gap aren’t acceptable. The whole reason “cocktail hour” was invented was to properly host your guests while you have pictures taken. It defeats the purpose and in fact, makes it worse, if you deliberately prolong the gap so that you can take pics and still join in the cocktail hour. If you finish your pics early and get to participate, that’s awesome — who doesn’t love drinks and appetizers? But it’s really rude to say “Thanks for coming, everyone. Now wander around aimlessly for 3 hours while we do some stuff.” I’m with Horeseradish — I’d probably just come to the reception and I don’t care that some people will get huffy and say “at least come to the important part!” Nope. If you’re going to make it inconvenient for me to do both, then I’m coming to the fun part. Not sorry. Also, the punctuality thing doesn’t make sense. Why plan to not be punctual? I don’t get that part. I’d stand my ground on this one — your priest and fiance aren’t being considerate to your guests.

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