Post # 1
My Fiance and I have been living together for nearly 4 years now, own our house and all the stuff we could ever need. We don’t enjoy fancy china or other house gadgets because we are minimalists. There is one place that we can think of that we would absolutely LOVE to have a registry at and it is an outdoor store here in Canada called MEC. We want a 2 person 4 season tent, camp stove, sleeping bags… all that kind of stuff so we can have a sweet honeymoon. They don’t have a registry but they do have a “wishlist” that we were thinking of putting on our wedding website. Fiance is very computer saavy, so I’m sure he could even develop someway to make it more like an online registry.
Anyhoo, what I guess I’m asking is, is this a weird thing to ask for our wedding? We were originally just going to register for a few things at the Bay to be polite, but were hoping we’d get monetary gifts instead. Now we’re thinking we’d rather get stuff we’d use like travel and camping gear.
Would you be comfortable giving outdoor gear as a gift to a couple?
Post # 3
I guess.. To be honest, I recently received a wedding guest list that asked for power tools and fishing gear, and it became the joke of the family. People thought it was ridiculous for them to ask for…but they did get a bunch of stuff from the registry. They were in your same situation – had a house together, lived together for a few years, etc.
I think ultimately, you need to know who you are asking. My family is ultra-traditional when it comes to weddings, and the very un-traditional route of asking for tools and sporting equipment was frowned upon. Even now, the shower is over, and people are still laughing about it. But if your family is more laid back/less on the crazy traditional side (seriously, we all got copies of Emily Post’s etiquette books for Christmas/birthdays), then maybe it would be okay.
I personally, wouldn’t give outdoor gear as a gift at a wedding. I always give cash/checks, so you could use that towards whatever gear you need.
Post # 4
I think that you should register for things that you are truly going to use. I would rather buy a tent that a couple is going to use that a blender that they are never going to use.
Post # 5
i think it’s a great idea, it is definitely better to register for stuff that you could actually use rather than stuff you don’t want, don’t need and would probably return.
Post # 6
Thanks everyone for your feedback so far!
@abbie017, you’re right, it definitely depends on who you’re asking. We are having a pretty small wedding and most people who are coming know that we are always going on roadtrips, hiking up mountains and traveling through countries. I would hope that they knew outdoor stuff is better than a gravy bowl! haha! There hasn’t been a wedding in our family for a while, so I’m unsure about how traditional they are. I think we’ll give it a shot.
Post # 7
I agree with TKS. I’d so much rather spend my money on a tent or something knowing the couple will get a lot of use out of it than waste my money buying them yet another useless kitchen gadget that will just gather dust.
I don’t like to give cash or gift cards, so I usually buy off of registries. I wouldn’t even bat an eye at a registry with tents and sleeping bags and camp stoves, to be honest. I think it’s a great idea.
Post # 8
@zippylef: Totally agree! I think it a great idea and im sure any guest would rather buy a gift thats wanted and will be used than something that will be shoved in a cupboard and left to collect dust
Post # 9
What do you think about what kind of stuff we have on the registry? What if there was a sleeping bag him and one for me? They obviously would be different sizes and stuff… Is that weird? We’d obviously be asking for things we need together, but there are certain things that only one of us would use, but we’d be using it together.
Post # 10
Absolutely! There is no reason to register for something you’ll never use. I think it’s unique and a nice change from the traditional stuff.
Post # 11
Were registered at MEC. We actually keep a running wishlist and our families know to go there if they need a birthday or christmas present for either of us so its easy. Oh and I wouldnt recomend a 2 man 4 season tent first of all there very hard to find and very very uncomfortable due to the lack of air circulation. Roomy is worth it with a single wall tent when they are so much more light weight. Fiance is an outdoor adventure guide and we own our own tourism company (I buy all our gear been in the business for a while now).
edit: where even registered for matching watches… Ok there sunto but they match lol.
Post # 12
@blueskye: I think that’s fine. I don’t think anyone is expecting you guys to share a sleeping bag every time you go use them, lol. Registries are about things that you need AND want. The only thing I will say is that be aware of price points. I know outdoor gear gets pricey really quickly, especially for good quality gear, and just make sure to include things at a variety of prices.
Post # 13
I think that’s kind of fun. At one of the last weddings we went to, my mother ended up buying a fancy napkin set with tablecloth. I thought that was kind of silly. I’d much rather buy something fun that you’d be excited to open! Its about loving the couple and wanting to make their day just a bit more special. But I agree with making sure you keep a variety of prices, theres nothing worse than being invited to a wedding where I can’t afford the presents on their registry.
Post # 14
I don’t see why not. I’d probably buy you some outdoor gear if that’s what you’ll use and enjoy as a couple, plus you can have it forever instead of a trip which only lasts a few days. I’m definitely getting more open minded about registries. As long as the bride isn’t registering at Sephora or putting “The wedding is making us broke so please send us on our dream vacation!” on the invites.
Post # 15
I, personally, would love to give outdoor gifts to the couple – especially if I knew they would get hours of pleasure together from it. It promotes an active healthy lifestyle – can’t think of a single thing wrong with that. A cousin of mine registered for a tent, sleeping bags, lantern … and I not only didn’t think twice about it, I actually would have preferred to give them a gift along those lines except they had already been purchased and I didn’t know the couple well enough to think outside the box.
We’re thinking of registering at REI (another outdoorsy type store) – I’m of the opinion that people who want to get you a “traditional” gift will do so regardless of what you register for, so register for what you actually would like so that people who want guidance on what you’d appreciate receiving will have some solid ideas.
And regarding your question about what would be “weird” – I think there are some obvious “his and hers” items that appear on every registery. Yes, you’ll want different size sleepings. Clearly you’d want two different packs. But if only one of you had the appropriate gear, neither of you can do it together. As if you say that every power-tool, vacuum cleaner and dish set I’ve ever seen was for the couple – you can pretty clearly tell who wanted what!
Post # 16
I think it’s a great idea! As many have said I always want to buy the bride and groom something they not only want but that I know they can use. I once went to a wedding where the couple had just bought a house that was a fixer upper and they politely requested Home Depot gift cards as wedding gifts. It was great and with their thank you cards they updated guests on their progress they had made on the house thanks to all the gift cards they received. It would be really cute if you added a photo of you and your fiance camping with your thank you cards or something like that. Just go for it. I always find the nontraditional ideas so refreshing.