Post # 17
Honestly she sounds really immature but I wouldn’t assume she is out to steal your man. Maybe I am naive or thinking about my FH’s current female friends. If one of them asked him to dinner or to go hiking or something that wouldn’t bother me. I would figure they are friends and could talk about stuff they have in common (most of his friends have the same job as him, so when they get together they talk shop and I don’t need to be there for that!)
Post # 18
@sablemuse: Lol at the Will Ferell comparison. She isn’t really one of the guys, burping type. I have no idea why stole my wine and apparantly couldn’t resist the cake so she ate the icing off of it then made a mess. She seemed normal at the beginning of the night but she keeps referring to my husband as her “Mikeee” which I’ve always found weird. Not yours, lady.
My husband definitely gets that it’s weird and definitely wouldn’t go without me (even though I told him I would never tell him he can’t). He just keeps smirking because we’re laying in bed reading (I’m on WB obviously lol) and I keep muttering to myself about why she would ask that lol.
I don’t see her as a threat but I find her inconsiderate and not someone I really want around.
Post # 19
Usually I think that if you trust your husband, there should be no cause for concern but in this case, I think it’s highly inappropriate.
Post # 20
@kerensa: I totally get what you are saying and normally I would feel the same, it’s just that she has seen my husband/talked to him maybe 5 times in 4 years so I wouldn’t really call them friends anymore. If they even wanted to go for coffee it wouldn’t seem so bad it’s just that I always ask my husband to go to this park because it’s so pretty and romantic and to me it seems wrong if he were to take another girl he isn’t close friends with to our spot, with our dog .
Post # 22
What she did disrespects everyone. Your husband, you and her boyfriend. Sad.
Post # 23
I don’t think the fact that she asked him to go hiking with her is inappropriate. However, I do think that the way she tries to carry on with him, without fostering a friendship with you is inapproriate.
For instance, my bestfriend is a guy. We’ve been friends since middle school & often spend time alone together. We go out to eat, to the movies, I crash at his place when I’m in town, & etc. This was the nature of our friendship before his fiancé came around, but honestly if she ever expressed that she was uncomfortable with it, I would totally respect that. His fiancé and I get along very well. I made a point from the very beginning, of including her & letting her know that I respected her & her position in his life. I always let her know when I’m in town, and we often spend time together without him. In short, I know my interactions with my bestfriend are completely harmless, but I refuse to just dismiss his significant other, as though she doesn’t even exist. To me, it seems as though your hubby’s friend is just dismissing the fact that he even has a wife, which isn’t cool.
On the other hand, if this were my SO & some girl from his past wanted to be alone with him on a hiking trip, I’d probably flip the hell out! I realize that might make me a hypocrite or a jealous-psycho, but it is what it is.
Post # 24
Yeah, not gonna happen! I’m with you on this one.
Post # 25
@SincerelyShe: I think that’s great that you’ve built a friendship with his Fiance. It would make a huge difference in making her feel comfortable I’m sure.
Unfortunately, this girl has never done that. She invited my husband to a pool party and he had to ask if he could bring me and she said “oh, ok, she can come” but made mefeel awkward when I was there.
She also used to have a crush on him years ago and I know her relationship with her bf isn’t the strongest so those little details add to the situation.
I am glad he straight away decided he wouldn’t go, but I do feel a lot better that so many of you have understood my feelings. I am not super jealous and just wanted to make sure I wasn’t overreacting by being weirded out by her request.
Post # 26
Aghh, nope. Not okay, at all. I hear alarm bells all over the place.
Post # 27
Someone would get punched in the throat….but that’s just me.
Post # 28
@pinklemonade12: Its a good thing that he decided not to go, but maybe he should also talk to her about boundaries too, or at least talk to her about how wierd it is that she doesn’t include you. She is definitely not a girl’s girl. Like PP said, she might as well be Will Ferell in a skirt, LOL.
Post # 29
Not okay in my book. I would just invite myself to tag along with them rather than start a big fight over it.
Post # 31
i like the idea of just inviting yourself too.