(Closed) Is this an inappropriate thing to ask a married man to do?

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 47
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658 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Umm, I think it is weird. But I guess it depends on your type of relationship. My fiance and I do everything together basically, unless he is with his guys or I’m with my friends. I could see a double date, but just inviting him seems weird to me. 

Post # 48
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

She sounds like an all-around inappropriate person so it shouldn’t surprise you that she’s doing yet another inappropriate thing.  Sometimes people outgrow friendships; sounds like it’s time for some distance between her and your husband.  She has some obvious issues that you don’t need drug into your marriage.

Post # 49
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230 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011 - Spring Grove Park & St. George Banquet Center

Yikes, she sounds cray-cray. I’m glad your husband said no, but I almost think he needs to have a little chat with her about a thang called BOUNDARIES if he wants to keep her as a friend. 

Kudos to you for keeping your cool and not wanting to ask your hubby to ditch that friendship altogether. 🙂 I know I’d be tempted to.

Post # 51
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130 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I would be very upset. You are right., you cannot tell him not to be friends with her but this hike thing it’s a no no! You should go too and invite her boyfriend

Post # 52
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I would totally think that was weird that she was asking him to go hiking alone.. I would not be okay with that! Sounds like your husband did the right thing though!

Post # 53
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4192 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

Um, she basically asked your husband out on a date- not cool. The only woman who could ask DH that, and it wouldn’t raise any eyebrows, would be his sister.

Post # 55
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

totally innapropiate!

 

Post # 56
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

She sounds like a wreck to me…. and I agree with PPs about it being inappropiate.

I think your husband should cut her out of his life completely….But thats just me….

Post # 57
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7898 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

In general, I do not think it is inappropriate for two friends to go overnight hiking together, and I don’t care whether one is a woman and one a man or one married and the other not. However, if a relationship is a toxic one, I don’t think the toxic person should spend time with the other person, especially alone, so I’d probably feel uncomfortable about this specific situation.

Post # 58
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188 posts
Blushing bee

Agreed.Inappropriate.

Post # 59
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Oh heck no.  That’d never fly with me.  I’m with you on this one — she’s being inappropriate.

Post # 60
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9129 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

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@hisgoosiegirl:  This.   would have no problem with a double date or even an hour meeting at Starbuck’s but alone in the woods (with my dog!?!).  HECK NO!

Post # 61
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I’m the girl who is totally fine with Fiance having female friends, going out to bars with them and without me, and I say HELL NO to this one. She sounds like trouble.

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