Post # 47
Umm, I think it is weird. But I guess it depends on your type of relationship. My fiance and I do everything together basically, unless he is with his guys or I’m with my friends. I could see a double date, but just inviting him seems weird to me.
Post # 48
She sounds like an all-around inappropriate person so it shouldn’t surprise you that she’s doing yet another inappropriate thing. Sometimes people outgrow friendships; sounds like it’s time for some distance between her and your husband. She has some obvious issues that you don’t need drug into your marriage.
Post # 49
- Wedding: June 2011 - Spring Grove Park & St. George Banquet Center
Yikes, she sounds cray-cray. I’m glad your husband said no, but I almost think he needs to have a little chat with her about a thang called BOUNDARIES if he wants to keep her as a friend.
Kudos to you for keeping your cool and not wanting to ask your hubby to ditch that friendship altogether. 🙂 I know I’d be tempted to.
Post # 50
No he doesn’t want to go which is good so as far as the discussion goes, we’ve dropped it. I won’t be making a huge deal out of it, but the reason I’m asking for other ladies opinions is because I was curious how other people would feel about her request. I found it strange but I could’ve been totally off. I am relieved to see that most people feel, given the details of the situation, that it is a weird suggestion on her part.
Trust me, I asked him the same question. I was pretty pissed after she destroyed my cake last year and never apologized. We literally never heard from her again until a week ago on my husbands birthday. She was not invited to his party (I left it up to him who he invited and he left her off the list) but apparantly one of myhusbands friends asked her if she was going and she asked him about it so he felt awkward and said she could come to his bday.
I was hopeful that she would disappear again but then she started texting him and asked about the hike. He said he had plans to go hiking with me and is planning on not replying to her othermessages so hopefully that’ll end those chats. He definitely has no interest in rebuilding a friendship with her. And again, this was his own choice and Imade it clear that he was allowed to be friends with her/ hang out with her and I trust him completely and would never tell him he couldn’t so he came to his conclusion on his own.
Post # 51
I would be very upset. You are right., you cannot tell him not to be friends with her but this hike thing it’s a no no! You should go too and invite her boyfriend
Post # 52
I would totally think that was weird that she was asking him to go hiking alone.. I would not be okay with that! Sounds like your husband did the right thing though!
Post # 53
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
Um, she basically asked your husband out on a date- not cool. The only woman who could ask DH that, and it wouldn’t raise any eyebrows, would be his sister.
Post # 54
I think that if they had stayed in regular contact over the past 4 years theN itwouldn’t seem so strange. They were childhoodfriends, but haven’t been good friends in over 5 years because she just stopped talking to him. He was really hurt that when he was deployed she never messaged him or replied to his messages like his other friends did so in his eyes that was kind of the death of the friendship. They haven’t talked more than 5 times in 4 years so they definitely aren’t close anymore.
Post # 56
She sounds like a wreck to me…. and I agree with PPs about it being inappropiate.
I think your husband should cut her out of his life completely….But thats just me….
Post # 57
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
In general, I do not think it is inappropriate for two friends to go overnight hiking together, and I don’t care whether one is a woman and one a man or one married and the other not. However, if a relationship is a toxic one, I don’t think the toxic person should spend time with the other person, especially alone, so I’d probably feel uncomfortable about this specific situation.
Post # 59
Oh heck no. That’d never fly with me. I’m with you on this one — she’s being inappropriate.
Post # 60
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
This. would have no problem with a double date or even an hour meeting at Starbuck’s but alone in the woods (with my dog!?!). HECK NO!
Post # 61
I’m the girl who is totally fine with Fiance having female friends, going out to bars with them and without me, and I say HELL NO to this one. She sounds like trouble.