Post # 1
One caterer we’re looking at has themed menus as well as make your own buffet menus. The themed ones are cheaper (by $3 per person.) But obviously not every themed menu covers everybody.
We’re mostly thinking about these two menus.
Brat and burger:
- Grilled bratwurst
- Grilled hamburger
- Hamburger and hotdog buns
- Lettuce, tomato, pickles, onions, cheese
- Mayonnaise, ketchup and mustard
- Garden pasta salad
- Honey mustard potato salad
- Chocolate fudge brownies
- Fried cod or catfish
- White and rye bread
- Ketchup and tartar sauce
- Fried potato wedges
- Home style coleslaw
- Macaroni and cheese
- Assorted cookies
Would it be weird to have the menus on the invitations and ask people to specify which one they would rather have in the RSVPs? Or possibly order a couple extra of the fish (because I’m sure more people would want mac and cheese and potato wedges than pasta salad and potato salad.) And no, they wont do substitutes, I already checked.
If not that choice, the buffet menu would be:
- Beef stroganoff
- Stuffed shells with ricotta stuffing and chinati marinara
- Garden salad
- Broccoli casserole
- Parsley buttered potatoes
- Rolls with butter
Also, I realize I post a lot of threads asking for advice. I dont know what I would do without the Bee.
Post # 3
@allyfally: We are having burgers as our food so I definitely don’t think it’s crazy. But we are also having a backyard reception so it also kind of fits with our overall reception.
Post # 4
@Tandysha: I meant more of the idea of having guests specify which menu they would rather have. Sorry for the confusion.
Post # 5
If I’m understanding this question correctly… I do think it would be a little weird to ask your guests to, effectively, vote on your wedding menu. And think how bitter all the ones who vote for the losing side might be.
Anyway, fish fry all the way. The sides are way better, more people eat fish than red meat, and TARTAR SAUCE.
Post # 6
@allyfally: just pick the menu yourself.
in my opinion, when you give people a vote and they lose sometimes they act like childish brats…
Post # 7
Don’t let your guests vote. I know you’re trying to make people happy but I see doing that causing more problems then it’s worth.
Which menu would you prefer?
I vote for the fish! 😉
Post # 8
@geekspice: I agree. And I would probably be confused if I were a guest. I would think I was choosing what I wanted, and then be confused when I got to the wedding and what I had “ordered” wasn’t an option.
Post # 9
I think it would be too confusing and troublesome.
you can have us vote! I would vote burgers. I can’t do fish.
Post # 10
@allyfally: I think people will confuse giving a preference to actually making a choice, so if you go the route of putting the menues on the RSVP cards, make sure to word it very clearly. Otherwise folks are going to show up thinking they’ll have access to food that isn’t there! (Ha, or possibly I’m the confused one here and asking them IS giving them a choice…?) Also, with the brats and burgers menu, are veggie burgers a possibility or are there beans in the garden pasta salad? If not, that menu doesn’t have any non-meat entree potentials. At least with the fish fry, mac and cheese can be a main meal. Just a thought!
Honestly I’d just make a choice then run with it rather than asking all of the guests. If you decide on this caterer and you can’t make a firm decision, I’d poll your family and closest friends. No need to have the entire guest list as part of the discussion.
The buffet menu looks solid imo.
Post # 11
Sorry I didnt explain it correctly. We would be getting BOTH of the themed menus. We’d just let the guests pick which one they would rather have and order that number of each one.
Like if my dad wanted the burgers but my mom wanted the fish, we’d order the burgers for him and the fish for my mom.
Make more sense now?
Post # 12
Ohhhhh I get it! I think that could work, but you would inevitably have people who still want to go to both of the buffets. So I think if you went this route you would definitely have to have extras of everything! :]
Post # 13
@allyfally: Ohhhh then that changes things. Many RSVP cards ask the guests to choose a dish, so your situation wouldn’t really be that much different. Your RSVP card could be worded like this:
Your responses is kindly requested by Month Day, Year
____ Accepts _____ Declines
Please initial one of the following choices for each guest
_____ Burgers or brats with garden pasta salad or potato salad
_____ Fried cod or catfish with coleslaw or macaroni and cheese
That’s just a quick and dirty version. I wouldn’t put the entire menu for each option but highlight the mains and two important sides especially if some people will be swayed by the sides.
Post # 14
I think she means that she would order both menu’s in portportions based on guest preference – is that right? I think that could be fine. But it would be much easier if you didn’t have to. Is there any way the caterer would let you just order both and pay per person for the combo?