(Closed) Is this appropriate?

posted 6 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I think it’s the dreaded t-word, but I know others disagree.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012 - The Chapel of the Sir Christopher Wren Building, 2007 Legacy Hall

Hmm. I would feel a little weird about having a jar, but there are plenty of honeymoon registries out there!

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I know that some people will be very upset about this, I don’t really have an opinion either way.

What I would be concerned about, is leaving a jar of cash out on an open table. You already hear all these stories about cards getting stolen, so I don’t know how comfortable I’d be with the jar being left in the open!

Post # 6
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Honey Beekeeper

You could put that jar somewhere at home for you and your Fiance to contribute to, but personally, I wouldn’t put it at the reception.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee

I know it sounds weird but id be ok with a honey fund registryand I’d absolutelydonate to it. But a jar? Yeah, no. I’m not gonna make it rain in your jar on your wedding. I only buy gifts in advance and don’t carry large amounts of money and the jar is just weird… To me.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I don’t like the idea. Guests come to your wedding with gifts and then on top of that, there is a jar to fund your honeymoon? I would side-eye the hell out of the couple.

Post # 11
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

No, no,no. The next step will be some couple going around and asking the guests to throw their wallets in a laundry basket.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Are you kidding??? I would probably just drop my card in the jar, since we usually give cash anyway, and wonder if that’s what they meant…because I can’t wrap my head around the thought that someone would it’s okay to ask for donations for their honeymoon.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

It’s tacky.  Your (general you) guests already brought you a gift so don’t try to shake them down for even more money.  I would find that both greedy and rude.

 

Post # 15
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I think a jar is tacky but I did attend a wedding where they had “dollar dances”. I thought that was cute and everyone really enjoyed it.People would bring up dollars or change to dance with the bride and groom and they used that on there honeymoon, got alot of money from doing it and it was done with taste.

Post # 16
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

I am considering the same thing so I will be following this pose and possibly looking at a few others if I can find them.  I’ve been divorced and my current Fiance and live together now so we have all of the household items (even the nice ones from my first wedding.)  Plus, we will be living in a tiny downtown apartment when we get married and there really won’t be any room for random crap from a registry.  My family is not really into a honeymoon registry so I am at a loss as to what to do when people ask us about gifts and a registry.  Right now we’re thinking about not registering, letting word get around that we are saving up for our honeymoon, and then letting guests decide whether they want to pick up random wedding gifts like picture frames or help us with our savings.  Honestly, we’re fine if people choose not to get us anything but even $10 or $20 would be more appreciated than a $40 spice rack that I don’t ahve the space for.

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