(Closed) Is this appropriate for a wedding

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 16
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1987 posts
Buzzing bee

alliegeeb :  As far as I’m concerned, there are only two questions that a female guest needs to be concerned with when dressing for a wedding:

1.  Is this outfit mostly (say ~85% or more) white or a very closely related shade like ivory?  

2.  Is this outfit appropriate in terms of length and style for the time of day and venue of the ceremony/reception?

If you can answer ‘no’ to question number 1 and ‘yes’ to question number 2 then you’re home free.  Just because colors like blush, peach, champagne, etc. have been enjoying their day as popular choices for members of the wedding party (and some brides) does not mean that the “no white” rule can be expanded to include these colors, and I can scarcely find words to express how absurd I think it is to suggest that this dress is either inappropriately attention-seeking or has fancy details that let it compete with the average bridal gown.  I live in an extremely conservative, extremely behind-the-fashion-times part of the country and young women wear dresses like this to weddings all the time.

Post # 17
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

alliegeeb :  it’s lovely and not too short?! It’s got details on it which make it more guest than bride too. It’s delicate and pretty. 

Post # 18
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

its a see through dress over a long vest… its not the worst ever but it will draw attention between the nude colour and the actual showing skin

to be honest it could be a burka but if its a completely see through burka it wouldnt be appropriate… coverage doesnt matter if its completely transparent

Post # 19
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Helper bee

Apart from the fact that it might be a little too short, the main issue is that it looks pretty casual to me – I’ve worn similar dresses for classes at university. I really like the dress, but not for a wedding. 🙂

Post # 20
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Busy bee

If you have to ask, doesn’t that mean even you  have the slightest inkling that something is off about it?

 

Post # 21
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Bumble bee

It’s obviously that short because the model is like 8ft tall. 

Maybe stop sexualising women’s legs – they are freaking legs. 

Post # 22
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

littlebuzz :  for all you know the bride could be taller than the model… and the model looks normal modelling height (5′ 8″) which is how tall I am and I have several friends taller aswell as shorter so hardly unnatural or unheard of height range

 

also NO ONE sexualized anything undecided the question was is it appropriate for a wedding, for most weddings it not although it might be passible at a casual wedding like a BBQ

 

a bikini is perfectly acceptable on the beach but wouldnt be for 99.9% of job interviews… its not ‘sexualizing’ to point that out, different thing require different dress codes

Post # 23
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Blushing bee

It’s not inappropriate but I don’t think its elegant dress. I think its a very casual dress that I would wear on everyday basis i I like dit. 

It is definitely not too short or anything but it really doesn’t look elegant.

Post # 24
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

As a guest? I think it’s way too sheer, cream, and bridesmaid like, but it seems I’m in the minority. 

Post # 25
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Blushing bee

I think it’s pretty and wouldn’t think twice seeing a guest in it. 

Post # 26
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2015 - Hotel Ballroom

While the dress isn’t my personal taste, I see nothing wrong with wearing it to a casual wedding 🙂

Post # 27
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Bumble bee

alliegeeb :  I personally don’t think so. But it’s because it looks cheapy? Sorry don’t know how to explain it.

Post # 28
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Newbee

I actually find the dress really cute. I don’t think it’s too short, too revealing or bride-y so I think you’re fine, go for it. 

Post # 29
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Busy bee

It’s not too bridal. Looks too casual for a wedding though. And cheap. Is the wedding going to be a really laid back event?

Also, I agree it shows a lot of skin. The overlay is too sheer to counteract how sparse the underlay is, which is basically a minidress. 

Sorry, I don’t like it. The idea of the dress is cute, but the execution is lacking. 

Post # 30
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Helper bee

I think it is fine and not bridal at all, however I personally would not wear it because I know I would be self-conscious the entire time that for someone else it was seen as inappropriate. I tend to wear dresses that are totally in the safe zone to weddings, i.e. not in the white/tan/blush family and on the conservative side in length and cut. But I am self-conscious in that way and the last thing I would ever want is for someone to mistake me for being rude or disrespectful to a bride on her wedding day. I would have no problem at all if someone had worn this to my wedding, and it actually would have fit right in since we had a garden wedding, but as a guest I would worry the color is too light.

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