(Closed) Is this appropriate to say to a caterer?

posted 3 years ago in Food
Post # 2
157 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

I’m not engaged yet, but I am a lifelong vegetarian (since birth) and I completely know what you’re talking about. I don’t know why everything vegetarian or vegan has to be bland, weird, or scary-looking-to-eat (or just plain uncomforatable for the carnivorous guests ). I don’t think it’s inappropriate to give the caterer some guidance as to what you’re looking for, considering you are more experienced with this type of food and they clearly are not. It’s your special day, and the two of you should do what will make you happy that day. If that means talking to the caterer, try it out. You don’t have anything to lose if he says that they’ll think about it. Also, if they can’t, then you may have to pay the venue fee and have it catered from outside — at least then everyone will have happy bellies. I hope everything works out for the best, let us know what happens!

Post # 3
3042 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015 - Walnut Hill Bed & Breakfast

If you want them to do something special, then I think YOU should look at the menu options at your favorite places and make a list of things that you would like.  Give them an abbreviated list and ask if any of those dinner options would fit your budget / if they could do them or something similar.


Post # 4
1413 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

amberback:  +1 agree.  My caterer sent us a sample menu that didn’t have a vegetarian main dish option – I told them I’d like to add a pasta dish and sent them several ideas to give them a sense of what I was thinking of, and they made a few for our tasting.

Post # 6
2505 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I think rather than sending them to look at other restaurants and chefs (which they might find offensive), I would make them a list of sample dishes you enjoy and see if they are recreate them.  

Post # 7
3729 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

TGold:  I wouldn’t send them menus, but I would email them back with specific concerns and suggestions. Maybe come up with 3-4 ideas and specific reasons why you aren’t a fan of what they proposed? That is what I did with my caterer and food allergies.

Post # 8
1896 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I think it would def turn them away. To me it says “your food isn’t good enough, so try to be like these people”… Even tho your intention is 100% sincere. I would directly talk to the chef of the places you love and then talk to your cater to do more of a ” custom” menu.

i also don’t blame you for not wanting your sterotypical vegan food.

Post # 9
1379 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

TGold:  so I work for a food service company that does catering and let me tell you this one thing: we love to accommodate but we do not have abundant time on our hands! 

If you want options that are not something we serve, a list is much more polite way than giving me a list of restaurants you like so I can try to hunt menus and try to figure out what you like. Because if I’m being totally honest, well there is just not enough hours in a day to be doing things like that!

With that being said, we have an event comin up that they requested vegan quinoa chili for. Not only are we totally doing it, we’re using my recipe for it (and it’s so delicious I can’t wait!!) Catering companies are more than likely going tobe willing to accommodate your needs if youre willig to tell them what you want!


Good luck with your mission!!

Post # 11
12103 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

TGold:  DH and I suggested a salad that we’d had at another restaurant.  We just said ‘can you do this’ and listed the salad ingredients we wanted to see.  I wouldn’t tell your caterer to look at another restaurants menu, but perhaps suggest some of your favourite dishes?  What would your ideal menu be – I’d send them a list of what you want ideally and see if they can do it and how much it will be – work from there.

Post # 12
223 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2015


Post # 13
223 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

Post # 14
3308 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I think a list of dishes would be more appropriate than a menu from another restaurant. 

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