Post # 1
Dh got an email announcing that a co-worker got married over the weekend and asking the employees to come sign a card for her. It also said “Donations are welcome, please see these people to donate”
This seems extremely tacky to both of us. There’s no shower, they just want people to give her money.
Post # 3
Meh, as long as it isn’t the couple getting married flat out saying COME GIVE ME MONEY, I think it’s fine. Whenever someone in my office gets married or has a baby, I’m usually in charge of getting a card and bringing it to everyone to sign and usually ask if they want to give some money as a gift.
Post # 4
I personally think it’s fine because it is not the newlyweds who are asking for money. It is someone else who just wants to be nice to them. It’s a little unorthodox. But I would only call it tacky if it were th couple asking for money.
Post # 5
I doubt that the individual who got married requested that the “Donations are welcome” be typed at the bottom of the email.
I bet it was just a co-worker trying to be nice and shower the newly wedded couple. The good intentions are there.
Post # 7
I appreciate the input, I hadn’t thought of it that way.
Post # 8
Eh, it’s fine, and pretty common at work places.
Post # 9
@dlbaqua: I’m a little confused by the word “donations” since it doesn’t really say what they are for. Because it’s work thing, I would have thought the person circulating the card maybe meant that they are going to go in on a gift, and if you want to donate towards it, that would be welcome?
I dunno, I’m not a fan of requests for money in any way, shape, or form. But this could be a little bit of a misunderstanding. If you’re not comfortable giving money, why not see if people want to go in on a gift certificate to a nice restaurant or a spa?
Post # 10
This is fine. We always do a whip-round for things like this. Leaving/Babies/Weddings. Donations are optional, but everyone does put money in.
Post # 11
It is fine. I got a card from co-workers before I went on maternity leave. They chipped in on a gift card to Target. I did not know about it and it was a welcomed surprise. I liked that everyone signed the card, the well wishes made me very happy.
Post # 12
It didn’t come from the couple themselves, so I think it’s fine
Post # 13
I think it is fine as long as the newlyweds aren’t involved. It’s basically just like a workplace shower, right? Except after the fact.
Post # 14
- Wedding: June 2014 - Italiano's Humble
@MLDoddie: I think you’re actually spot on.
I voted tacky, before reading replies, bc whenever I’ve had this happen at work, it’s always came out that the newlywed had said something, so an email was sent to maker her “feel better”. I think I’ve only gotten it once or twice, but I recall one being where there was a big storm where she got married(up north, in the Spring). But on a smoke break, I overheard the girl and some of her coworkers(we had separate groups, in a collections agency), talking about how gorgeous it was, and how perfect everything was, but that she was about to lose her car.
Red flags went off, and I skipped the ATM at lunch, even though I’d already cleared it with XH to take a couple bucks out and give her. I guess I could be viewed as wrong, but it seemed more like a repo collection, rather than a company office gift. Especially since her conversation sounded the exact opposite of the “rumor” at work about the “bad weekend”.
Post # 15
This is pretty common in my workplace. Althought it usually happens before the wedding/baby/whatever. Someone sends an email saying there’s a card to sign and who to give money to if you want to donate. And if you aren’t interested it’s as simple as deleting the email. Usually the money goes towards a registry gift or a gift card. We usually have a shower where everyone brings food and has lunch together but I honestly find those awkward most of the time so I wouldn’t miss it.
Post # 16
I think it’s fine as long as it’s not the couple asking for money. We got a card and gift card from DH’s coworkers when we got married. He contributed when the office got together for a gift card for another coworker when she had a baby.