Post # 1
We are having a destination wedding December 2010. Can we include in our save the date the following: (1) ask guest to let us know by July if they will be traveling to Puerto Rico for the wedding either on our website or by phone or email; and (2) can we say on the save the date that for guest that can’t make it to PR that we will be having a reception in January?
We are trying to keep the guest list tight. My fiance wants to include people on the STD/invite list that he “knows” will not make it, but at a pretty stiff price per person for the wedding package I am concerned that even with 10 over our limit, we will have budget issues.
I don’t want to be rude, but the sooner we know a head count, the sooner we can determine how money can be spent elsewhere on the wedding or not at all. For instance, whether we can afford to have welcome bags for the guests.
Post # 3
i wouldn’t include an rsvp date on the std. that would defeat the purpose of your invitations. most people will probably respond with a “we are looking forward / can’t make it” message when they get the stds. else you could follow up with them after. would that be sufficient for you?
it might be nice to include the jan details on your std so they know that they don’t HAVE to commit to the dec trip if it would be really challenging.
Post # 4
I think you have to determine a destination invite list and a reception invite list. You need to determine that number of people. And once you determine that number than divy up the budget. If people respond no then you will have extra money to spend!
Post # 5
I agree with Mrs. Cherry. We were debating a destination wedding. We were going to pick the people we were inviting to go. It was going to be just our parents and siblings, with a couple of close friends. We were not going to leave it open to see, who could make it. We planned on having a reception back home once we got back. Our STD would have had info saying we’re getting married abroad, save the date to view the wedding live(yes, you can share your wedding via the internet) and then to save the date for the home town reception. In the end we decided against destination, though. I hope this helps. Good luck.