Post # 1
So this past weekend was my Future Sister-In-Law bachelorette party. I am a bridesmaid. Long story short, because they had a quick engagement, I had previous plans booked before the even got engaged and could not attend the events. I planned her shower and worked my butt off for it. I told her I could not attend the bachelorette weekend as I had previous committments…I even tried to coordinate a different weekend so I could attend but she insisted it be that weekend cause it was the bachelor party and she wanted to coordinate.
So I sent her flowers and she got them before the events started on the friday. I got her flowers in her wedding colours with a card that apologized for not being able to make it and to have a good time.
I expected to get a text or email or something saying “thank you” for the flowers. It is now Tuesday and nothing. Not a text, not a call, not an email. No acknowledgement. I know she got them as the groom went and picked them up and delivered them to her for me and said “these are from so and so”.
Is this Rude? Bad Manners? We text most of our communication so for her to not even text a “got the flowers thx” seems like bad manners to me.
What do you bees think?
Post # 3
Yes that is bad manners. My Future Sister-In-Law (or the equivalent) was also a Bridesmaid or Best Man, but didn’t help at all with the shower or attend the bachelorette party. You went above and beyond your expectations, a “thank you” is in order.
Post # 4
Meh, I wouldn’t read too much into it right now. Maybe she’ll send you and everyone else who got her something a thank you card. Now if you don’t hear from her within the next few weeks – then I’d be annoyed and call it poor manners.
Post # 5
Technically yes, but I’d give her the benefit of the doubt. Probably she was totally overwhelmed with everything going on and “make sure to thank missjewels” is still on her to-do list. Now, if next time you see her she doesn’t say a word about it, THEN you can really get irritated!
Post # 6
I would guess that she will do a thank you card. I wouldn’t get too upset about not getting a text.
Post # 7
Yes, it’s rude.
That was so thoughtful of you, though!
Post # 8
It’s rude, but maybe she’s just been trying to get back into her groove after the party? I don’t know, I’m trying to give her the benefit of the doubt!
How nice of you to work so hard for her and still send flowers to show you were thinking of her!
Post # 9
Maybe your thank you card is in the mail? I remember when I was getting married I was pretty stressed and tried to remember everything that everyone did for me, but it didn’t always happen immediately.
Post # 10
I do feel it’s a little rude, like I’d rather thank a bridesmaid on the spot (text or call) for something like that as opposed to writing a formal thank you in the mail, but I would give her the benefit of the doubt, perhaps there is a thank you card coming. I mean, maybe she won’t thank you at all and then you just know she has bad manners in that arena? You did the right thing and that’s what’s important.
Post # 11
I would say give it some time. It took a week before I got my thank yous out out to all my bridal shower guests =)
Post # 12
@HollyCJ: Shower was on June 9th, no thank you cards have been sent out. She didn’t even thank me…it was the groom who showed up at the end to pick her up that thanked me and his mom for hosting it. At that point she said “oh ya thanks” and then turned away.
Post # 13
I wouldn’t worry about it. She probably was wrapped up in bachelorette events and just forgot.
Post # 14
She is being rude, my Future Sister-In-Law did the same thing when I couldn’t attend her bachelorette party.