(Closed) Is this being too cheap (gift giving)?

posted 7 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Why dont you just go and buy something on sale, you might find something that cost less than $50 but that is worth more.

Post # 4
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Busy Beekeeper

i think $50 is fine. as a bride, i was appreciative of anything and everything i received. and some of my friends didn’t give gifts at all, but i was still happy to see them and that they came.

and i understand your financial situation as my Darling Husband and I are grad students who have lived paycheck to paycheck for years! and for all the weddings i went to, if i went alone, i would probably give $50 too. or if i went with a date, i would give max $100, sometimes less.

ETA: basically you should only give what you can. no one can expect you to go further into debt for a gift!

Post # 5
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Give what you can afford. A $50 cash gift is plenty. 

 

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I don’t think you’re being cheap. A gift is not meant to be a hardship or a financial strain. Get her something you know she will like or use and don’t worry about trying to spend a certain amount of money so you won’t be “cheap”.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I agree – give what you can afford.  Period.

Is she registered anywhere?  If she is, sometimes they have coupons (Bed, Bath & Beyond) and you could buy something off her registry and use a coupon to get more for the money.  Just an idea.

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2012

i think it is very generous of you to wish you could give mroe, but keeping in mind your current situation, i think $50 is very gracious of you

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

not cheap at all.  it’s the thought that counts and your presence she really wants!

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Does she have anything on her registry that is around $50?  I personally prefer registry items, but I might change my tune in a few weeks at my wedding…

Never give outside of your means; gift what you can and write a really thoughtful note- that will mean more to her than any present.  Maybe you can instead promise to make a canvas out of her favorite wedding picture?  I think these are around $50 and makes a lovely addition to their home. 

 

Post # 11
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

Anything you give should be appreciated. Even if it’s only $20. A bride who pouts about that doesn’t deserve it. You have to think about your current situation. Don’t break yourself trying to gift someone else.

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee

I think $50 is a good gift, but I like the idea of buying something on sale that is probably more affordable for you. I do think it is kinda rude of her not being accommodating on the food though, especially if most of her FI’s family can’t eat it either.

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I would say $50 is too much. make something or buy something on sale. people are generally understanding about tight money issues and if they are only inviting you to get $100 gift, well that isn’t a wedding I woudl want to go to.

Post # 15
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I agree that $50 is more than generous given your current situation.

I’m confused about the all seafood Chinese reception though!! I’m half Chinese and have been to many birthdays, dinners, etc at Chinese restaurants, but there has ALWAYS been rice, and options other than seafood!  Interesting they picked those choices when her FI’s family can’t eat it either…

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