(Closed) Is this black tie appropriate?

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Formal enough?
    Yes : (16 votes)
    20 %
    No : (64 votes)
    80 %
  • Post # 3
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2009

    @MissMeowMeow:  

    Unfortunately, no. A short dress is not considered to be true, black-tie-appropriate attire. You would need a long gown.

    Post # 6
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2009

    @MissMeowMeow:  

    If the invitation says, “Black Tie” or “Black Tie Invited,” you should not wear a short dress. However, if the invitation says, “Black Tie Optional,” you can.

    Post # 7
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    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Sorry, @Brielle:  Is correct. The dress should be long unless the invite says optional. 

    Post # 8
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    Agree with PP. Black tie formal = long dress. Even if you live at the beach 🙂

    Post # 10
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    Black tie = long dress to me. I don’t own any so I’d have to either decline or go buy one.

    Post # 11
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2014 - Disney

    @MissMeowMeow:  I have 2 black tie dresses currently and 6 high end cocktail dresses. Luckily I am tiny so I get my dresses on clearance for dirt cheap.

    Post # 12
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: December 2011

    It depends, I’m from an area too where even “real” black tie events people wear short dresses because the fashion scene is WAY more casual. I think its a little insane for someone to have people to buy floor length gowns (which generally are $$$) that they will never wear again for a wedding. It isn’t like you decided to show up in a denium skirt, if the bride freaks out because you wore a 100% FORMAL  but not floor length gown maybe she should remember the point of a wedding is to be married, not how her guests dresesed. 

    Post # 13
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2012

    i would definitely go with a long dress for this event.

    i did have 7-8 long dresses in my closet but after a clean out i now have 2, plus 7-8 cocktail dresses.  stick with the classic styles.  you can wear them for years.

    Post # 14
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    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    @MissMeowMeow:  I have 5 and gave away a few more a few months ago. I keep them classic so I can wear them for a few years and I have a list taped to the dress bag of where I have worn it so I don’t wear it twice to the same event.

    Post # 15
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    Blushing bee

    I actually just looked this up as my company is having a Black Tie Christmas party. For women at a black tie event, it is ok to wear a shorter dress so long as it is past the knee. If you’re not going to wear a long dress, tea length is preferred, but cocktail is also accepted. The only events that would absolutely require an evening gown are white tie. It also dictates that the dress should be sleeveless and worn with some sort of shawl or wrap. However, I will stand by the adage that if you have to ask, it’s probably not appropriate. Unfortunately, I am not able to see the dress from my work computer (the site is blocked) so I cannot give much more advice than that.

    Post # 16
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    160 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    Try Renttherunway.com  you can rent a designer formal gown for around $50 (or more).  And they always have coupon codes running for 15% or 20% off if you do a google search.

    I’ve rented here a bunch of times for weddings, formal military events, etc this way I dont have to spend $100-$200 on a formal dress every time I go to an event that I will never wear again.  But that’s just me, I don’t really like to wear the same thing twice to events etc.

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