Post # 1
I will be getting married on July 22nd and my Future Mother-In-Law will be hosting a bridal shower for me. We are trying to decide on a date and originally wanted to have it on July 1st because that’s when all of my bridesmaids are available, but I was thinking that it’s too close to the wedding and might seem gift grabby.
Is July 1st too close to my wedding for a bridal shower? What about June 24th?
Post # 2
We had mine about 40 days before the wedding.
Post # 3
I would do it at least a month before the wedding… having a shower 3 weeks before you’re wedding doesn’t sound like such a good idea.. but that’s just me!!! If I were you I would have it earlier in June if you could!
Post # 4
Maybe June 24th would be a touch better, but then again- does a week here or there really matter? My wedding is 9/08 and my bridal shower will be 7/23. My cousin’s bridal shower last year was 7/10 and her wedding was 8/13, so I guess I think around a month beforehand is perfect.
Post # 5
We were so busy before my wedding I actually did not intend to have a bridal shower, but my bridesmaids and my mom threw me a surprise shower 2 weeks before my wedding! It turned out great and it didn’t affect my wedding day at all so I’m not sure how the timing would affect your wedding. If everyone’s free on June 24th then why not but I don’t see a problem with having it on July 1st.
Post # 6
I had a friend-thrown shower about 7 weeks out, and a family-thrown one about 5 weeks out. I would have been ok doing one at 4 weeks out but probably not later than that, just because I am also doing my bach party in that time and need to finish up other wedding stuff.
Post # 7
That seems like a pretty typical distance from the wedding. I don’t think it’s too close.
Post # 8
I had one just over two months out (thrown by my family in my hometown) and we just had another (thrown by a family friend of my fiance) one week before the wedding. The hostess said people were flipping out when she sent the invite that there was no way I could handle that, but what did I have to do for that party other than show up? I had a great time drinking and visiting with everyone. It was super relaxing.
ETA: I’m confused how it would be gift grabby to be right near the wedding? The biggest problem the hostess ran into was the fact that people who were going to be out of town for the actual wedding were probably leaving the day of the shower.
Post # 9
Will there be anyone you’re inviting to the shower who will be out of town and expected to travel for both the shower and the wedding? In that case it might be cutting it a bit too close. Otherwise, if everyone’s in town, I think it’s fine.
Post # 10
I dont think the timing makes it any more or less gift-grabby, so if that’s your only worry I wouldn’t fret over it. That said, YOU might be a bit stressed 3 weeks out and not enjoy the shower as much if you’re feeling like you could really spend your time elsewhere. But on the flip side, it could be a fun kick-off to the wedding month!
Post # 11
I had my shower 9 weeks before. My BMs were antsy and a May date wouldn’t have worked for anyone’s schedule. Bridal Guide says to have a shower 2 weeks to 2 months before the wedding. Martha Stewart Weddings says “a couple months to a couple weeks before the wedding.” I think your proposed date is fine!
Post # 12
Good to know it seems like most people don’t think it’s too close! To be more specific, I guess my concern was making guests feel like they need to buy me a gift 3 weeks before the wedding and then another gift for the wedding less than a month later.
I think we decided to go with June 24th, which is exactly 4 weeks before the wedding day. 1 of my bridesmaids will be out of town until 1 week before the wedding (international) and 1 can’t make the 24th, but I thought it was better than having my Future Mother-In-Law throw it the same month of the wedding. :/
My maid of honor is also thinking of throwing my bachelorette 1 week before the wedding so things will be pretty crazy…