(Closed) Is This Cheating? What Should I do! :( (long post..sorry)

posted 10 years ago in Emotional
Post # 272
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Thank god! Now do it before you change your mind!

Post # 274
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Don’t go on the trip alone– take a friend or family member.

Post # 276
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

@WasiDuped: I think its totally fine to go on the trip alone! If you have a good friend willing to go with you then even better!  I think, though, that you should really try to move out before he returns rather than after. 

Post # 278
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Why does the resort need to know that the person checking in with you is not your ex-FI?  They usually don’t check ID on two people.  If they do…he’s got a later flight, a meeting, etc.  Or he couldn’t make it.

Post # 280
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

@WasiDuped: First of all, thank heavens you’re finally angry!!! I’m sorry you’re going through this, but so glad you’ve come to see him for who is truly is. Start putting you first, end of story.

For the resort, can you call them and talk to them about the situation? They must have some sort of compassion. What if you could sell off the trip at a discount to another couple and all they had to do was switch the reservation name? Have you tried that at all? Call them, don’t email, and don’t be afraid to cry to get your way 😉

Post # 281
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I am glad you are going on that trip alone. You will need some relaxation time. But I don’t understand, what do you mean your not moving out? Well you better prepare yourself. I couldn’t do it. You talk about keeping your distance but he will play with your emotions. Do you think he specifically picks girls that would not be defensive?

Post # 282
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I’ve followed this thread from the begining and have been quietly rooting for you. You should know that you not only deserve better – you can have it. You can have a great life with people who truely care about you.

I’m glad to see your latest updates, and that you are realizing that your ex is a cheater and always has been. It’s not your fault – it is who he is and that is not going to change.

But please – ask youself why are you still determined to stay in his house? After all that he has done to you (even giving you a disease), you still plan to be with him? You still want to spend time with him? Be honest with yourself. It doesn’t do you ANY good to stay in that house.

I would argue that you are entitled to some of his money, since you take care of his dog and house. You can also sell the ring. You can find a new apartment and get out of there.

The sooner you take action and leave him behind, the sooner your REAL LIFE will begin! The sooner you can meet a man who TRUELY cares about you! Let go of the past. Move out and let good things happen for you. 

Post # 284
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Honestly, I don’t think that would be screwing him over in my books. It seems like you are putting too much effort into sucking up to him?

Post # 286
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

When does he come back? (Sorry if I’ve missed it.) 

While you wait for the snow to melt, find that apartment.  Contact landlords and look up movers, so that when you can move, you can make it happen in one day.  Be as prepared as you can.

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