- 10 years ago
- Wedding: June 2012
Thank god! Now do it before you change your mind!
Thank god! Now do it before you change your mind!
You know, I’ve been frequenting a board that revolved around divorce busting. I was trying to learn from people going through possible divorces and saving their relationships to try and save this one.
Well, I started reading the people who were wishing to save the marriages where infidelity was confirmed.
I am digusted.
Not at the person wanting to keep the relationship alive, but at the situations.
Every single thread I was screaming in my head “leave this Fing asshole/or whore.. depending on the sitch.
Do I want to be “that girl”
No F-ing way.
But I did talk to a JAG today and was informed that I am legally allowed to stay in that house for as long as I need to move out.
So now that I am confident, now that I want nothing to do with his digusting, cheating face… I am going to stay there until after the wedding trip (that I will go on alone for sure as the resort is SOLD OUT! lol)
I will treat him with respect but distance.
I know this man.
He will want what he cannot have and be nice to me.
Then when I get back… I will move out.
All the tea in china, promises of marriage counseling, a f&cking labotomy wouldn’t make me get back with him.
Let some other woman deal with his bad traits. Cause trust me… he has WAY more than most. I put up with it because I’n no picnic either.
But I draw the line at lying pathalogically, cheating and generally fucking people over.
He is DAMN lucky I am a woman with intergrity and a soul.
Most women would have had his bank accounts and his house cleaned out at the first dating site discovery.
ETA: If your bored. Check out my Oneeleven profile (I haven’t signed in there for a long while as I am avoiding it – I will ask to have it deleted one day). Check out my engagement photos I posted. Granted I only posted a few but he looks SO in love, heck he ACTED so in love and you know what? He probably was in love. But what blows my friggen mind is that he signed up for a/multiple dating sites TWO WEEKS after those photos were taken!!!! TWO WEEKS!!!
Ahhhhhh the insanity
Don’t go on the trip alone– take a friend or family member.
I can’t. The resort (and the other four properties attached) are sold out as it’s Easter weekend. The busiest time of the year in Mexico (much to my dismay finding out AFTER I booked my wedding!! lol)
And I can’t switch his name.
The only thing I MIGHT be able to do is have someone buy a just a plane ticket and show up at the resort with me. And explain my double occupancy room is now down to one.
The person would have to repay for the room, which sucks to the tune of several thousand dollars, but I wouldn’t be alone.
F*ck i hate these none exchangable rules!! Grrrrrrr
Here’s the E photo thread:
Two weeks people!!!!
And fwiw….. we had an amazing sex life and I was very ‘pro’ Skype sex/naughty emails. It’s not like I withheld that to drive him to look elsewhere.
Why does the resort need to know that the person checking in with you is not your ex-FI? They usually don’t check ID on two people. If they do…he’s got a later flight, a meeting, etc. Or he couldn’t make it.
Hmmmm. I’ve always had to have both of us show ID when traveling.
@WasiDuped: First of all, thank heavens you’re finally angry!!! I’m sorry you’re going through this, but so glad you’ve come to see him for who is truly is. Start putting you first, end of story.
For the resort, can you call them and talk to them about the situation? They must have some sort of compassion. What if you could sell off the trip at a discount to another couple and all they had to do was switch the reservation name? Have you tried that at all? Call them, don’t email, and don’t be afraid to cry to get your way 😉
I am glad you are going on that trip alone. You will need some relaxation time. But I don’t understand, what do you mean your not moving out? Well you better prepare yourself. I couldn’t do it. You talk about keeping your distance but he will play with your emotions. Do you think he specifically picks girls that would not be defensive?
I’ve followed this thread from the begining and have been quietly rooting for you. You should know that you not only deserve better – you can have it. You can have a great life with people who truely care about you.
I’m glad to see your latest updates, and that you are realizing that your ex is a cheater and always has been. It’s not your fault – it is who he is and that is not going to change.
But please – ask youself why are you still determined to stay in his house? After all that he has done to you (even giving you a disease), you still plan to be with him? You still want to spend time with him? Be honest with yourself. It doesn’t do you ANY good to stay in that house.
I would argue that you are entitled to some of his money, since you take care of his dog and house. You can also sell the ring. You can find a new apartment and get out of there.
The sooner you take action and leave him behind, the sooner your REAL LIFE will begin! The sooner you can meet a man who TRUELY cares about you! Let go of the past. Move out and let good things happen for you.
Money is the only reason I’m staying.
It’s about time I play “the game”.
I will def save money by staying here.
I will be able to use his truck to move
I will suck up to him and attempt to get money back AND save the money staying here.
I will not have a problem playing this game.
This man F-ed with the wrong girl. His ex quietly went away as he didn’t (in her mind/to her knowledge) really wrong her, he just grew impatient and refused to put work into the relationship. With me? He’s been found out.
I am VERY good at playing the game.
I will come out on top.
Amazing how quickly stuff clicks.
Honestly, I don’t think that would be screwing him over in my books. It seems like you are putting too much effort into sucking up to him?
Naw. I’m getting what I want. So it’s worth it.
What would be an effort is:
Moving with five feet of snow on the ground
Apartment hunting with 5 feet of snow on the ground… Oh I take the bus and don’t drive so fun stuff
Paying a mover (no I don’t have anyone to move me)
Losing money by paying rent at my new place for a couple of more months that I need
Oh and doing this in just over 6 weeks
When you weigh it out, staying makes more sense.
Trust me. Aside from this thread I’m a pretty logical person. There is no gun to my head to move at the end of Feb so I’m not.
Lets just say last night was my dose of reality
When does he come back? (Sorry if I’ve missed it.)
While you wait for the snow to melt, find that apartment. Contact landlords and look up movers, so that when you can move, you can make it happen in one day. Be as prepared as you can.
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