(Closed) Is This Cheating? What Should I do! :( (long post..sorry)

posted 10 years ago in Emotional
Post # 302
706 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

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@WasiDuped: I’d also be interested in an update. How are you holding up?

Post # 303
7898 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

I think maybe there’s enough trust between you to try counseling before totally giving up.  Good luck!

Post # 304
701 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2004

YAY! im glad youve made the choice to move on. I think you need to get out of the house now. NOW

Im not trying to be mean. But he doesnt want to be with you anymore. he told you he hated you. he didnt call you for your birthdya. He gave you a disease. He F***ed another chick. He skypd other girls who would also have had sex with him over this. he went looking for other people to have sex with two weeks after you guys had you e-pics done! You are wasting your time by being there! There is no game. You are fooling yourself if you think there is some sort of game going on. LIFE IS NOT A GAME!!! YOUR TIME IS PRESCIOUS!!! as is everyones. DONT waste anymore time on him. He is not worth it at all. Go find your adventure! Its not with him. It could be in five feet of snow! it could be looking for an apartment!

Leave his house before he gets back. dont be that person that cant move on. you can! you are so worth more than anything he has to offer! do it! live your life!!!


Post # 305
401 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2020

Hi OP, I understand your decision to stay in the apartment post break up. I was in a similar situation as you were with my last ex.

I tried to move back home to my parents, but I couldn’t live there. My family has a history of violent outbursts. My mother was really kind and tried her very best to take care of me, so she looked up a place for me to live in. I couldn’t move out right away, as the room wasn’t ready until 2 weeks after.

So I stayed at my old apartment for that time. I slept on the floor and on the couch. It sucked really bad. I saw leftover boxes with the name of my ex and his new Girlfriend scribbled on it. Displayed pretty shamelessly. But I put up with it. I moved out quietly when he was at work and we were pretty congenial with the scheduling and such.

It was only until a week or month later that he came crying and throwing fits. I was completely over it. He found out that I had started dating again, and happily engaged. He tried to push himself back into my life, but leaving the apartment was the best thing I had ever done for myself.

Please please please don’t stay to “save money”. The hardship you think you’ll have won’t be a hardship at all. You’ll see it as a defining moment in recovering and being whole again.

I say this because it felt REALLY good paying off my own credit card debts without his assistance. The ex and I had a joint account, and it really opened my eyes to know that I was not just financially fine, but better, without him.

Post # 306
441 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

This sad story has stuck with me. Any updates on how you’re doing now? I hope that you’ve found some peace after being treated so horribly. 🙁 

Post # 307
272 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

*hugs* It will get better…

Post # 308
995 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012
Post # 311
646 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I wish all us bees could swarm together and sting the ****** to death.  lol

Sorry. Love and hugs, I admire that you didn’t stay with him.


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