(Closed) Is this dress appropriate as a guest?

posted 10 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2008

I personally don’t care about the whole no wearing white to a wedding thing BUT many people do and sadly that anthro. dress is the color of a wedding dress which means it could potentially upset the bride, her mom, her family or other wedding guests.  There are many other great colors out there so to be on the safe side I would pick something else. 

Post # 4
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Newbee
  • Wedding: December 1969

The dress you like is super cute..  but it is really close to white.  Couldn’t you buy it and wear it out to a nice dinner or Summer party?  

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2008

oh yeah and if you doubt how vicious people can get when it comes to the whole wearing white to a wedding issue I always like to point out this blog entry from the editor of Martha Stewart Weddings (aka the wedding bible). She wore a white dress to a wedding and she got trashed by blog readers. I mean people said really mean and horrible things all b/c she wore white.  

http://blogs1.marthastewart.com/weddings/2007/08/tough-question.html#comments

If they will trash the editor of the wedding bible that way imagine what people could say about you for wearing champagne.  

Post # 6
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Busy bee

it’s a cute dress but i think if you need to ask, then you already know the answer. 

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2008

No, sorry.  I don’t think it is appropriate.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2008

Absolutely do not wear this dress to someone else’s wedding.

Post # 9
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

I dunno… are you in the South? I know that the rules here in the South are different from other areas of the country. If you’re in the South it’s a definite NO WAY! You’ll be ostracized and talked about for years. Really.

 In other areas? I have no idea. Frankly, the rule that i’ve always lived by is if I think it might not be okay, it probably isn’t.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

I have a question: What if she were to pair it with some brightly coloured accents or accessories? (ie. pashmina, jewelery, purse, shoes, etc.) Would that be any different from wearing a white and other colour dress? I’m just curious 🙂

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

missbean,

I think that is a really creative idea, but  I still don’t think that the dress is appropriate. 

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee

I go with no unless you have a "bold" colored cardigan & shoes…even then I would talk to the bride in advance.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Although I’m sure you have good intentions (like looking fabulous) I just don’t think this is the right dress for a wedding. I’m in the category of people who find it highly inappropriate to wear white to a wedding and I know I’m not alone. I’m opposed to even wearing pale colors in general to a wedding (for me at least, I just wouldn’t feel comfortable). Super cute dress, but I’d skip it for the wedding.

Post # 14
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Newbee

Even if you went to the bride (assuming you’re close) and asked her if it was OK, what could potentially be the issue are all the little comments made by other guests, either to your face or behind your back.  I was just thinking of this today as I was watching the episode of The Office that featured Phillys and Bob Vance’s wedding and this particular exchange:

Meredith:  I thought you weren’t supposed to wear white to a wedding?

Kelly (wearing an obviously formal white gown with a tiara):  It was an emergency.  (To camera guy during a talking head)  I look really good in white.  🙂

Though this dress does not fall into that category (and is very cute), you never know how sensitive others can be to this.

Post # 15
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Newbee
  • Wedding: January 2009

That dress is adorable! I am a big believer in not wearing white to someone else’s wedding and I wouldn’t personally wear it.  But you might be able to get away with it if you wear other colored accessories (ie, no white shoes, and don’t wear it with pearls).

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I personally wouldn’t care less if someone wore a cute ivory dress to my wedding unless she was wearing a wedding dress ;), but even so, I wouldn’t choose to wear the color to a wedding myself and I think a lot of people could get offended. But I do agree with others that a well chosen boldly colored cover up could make it work.

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