Is this dress appropriate for a guest?

posted 2 months ago in Guests
Post # 31
1198 posts
Bumble bee

Wear it!! If someone has an issue with this, it says a lot more about them than you.

Post # 32
368 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2019

I am from the east coast and I say rock that dress!!!! I think it is perfect for a park wedding. Have a blast. 

Post # 33
2218 posts
Buzzing bee


OMG it is FINE. The rule is not “don’t wear ANY white”. The rule is “don’t wear ALL white”.

Bees be crazy!!!!

Post # 34
277 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2020

This is thedtype of dress that looks better on tall people (5’8+) so be aware of that if you haven’t tried it on. I am 5’7 and I I know I would be too short for this dress. I have made this mistake in the past. But it is a beautiful dress indeed

Post # 35
2222 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

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sunbeam33 :  I think is too white for a wedding. But the dress is gorgeous! If you decide not to wear it to the wedding, definitely still get it.  Where is it from?

Post # 37
98 posts
Worker bee

I’m usually very quick to say you shouldn’t wear a white or mostly white dress, but I think this one is perfectly fine. The casual style doesn’t read as bridal, and the floral pattern avoids feeling bridal to me by being reddish as opposed to more pink, as well as having a lot of leaves vs blooms. It’s summery. You’re good.

Post # 38
240 posts
Helper bee

Ask your niece–give her two dress options: this one, and another dress that has no white in it. If she chooses this one, great. If she chooses the other, then you know she would prefer no one wear any white. 

The reality is, no one here knows the bride, so our opinions don’t matter because we don’t know if they align with hers. 

Post # 39
146 posts
Blushing bee

I’d just pick a different dress. 

That dress has a lot of white. You can see from this thread that there are mixed opinions on it. Some think it’s fine and some thing it’s not. You could ask your niece but I wouldn’t bug her about it because 1) she already has lots of other decisions and things to worry about than what you’re wearing to her wedding and 2) she might not be fully honest if it bothered her. 

The dress is super cute but save it for another occasion. There are so many other dress options, I’m not sure why you’d risk it. 

Post # 40
12805 posts
Honey Beekeeper

I can be a relative stickler, myself that is, not dictating in real life to others, about etiquette. There is nothing wrong with this dress for a casual summer park wedding, though depending on exposure, traditionalists might take some issue with the nature of some of the cutouts. Hard to tell from the photo. 

Traditional etiquette mandates nothing all white out of respect. Patterns are fine. More liberal etiquette is OK with any white so long as it is not bridal in appearance. So those who say it’s not about being mistaken for a bride are correct, while those who say it is are not in the wrong either. Personally, I think it’s a little of both. 

Post # 41
450 posts
Helper bee

I always think the best approach with these dresscquestions is to ask the bride herself. Send a pic with “Hey, love this dress, would like to wear it to your wedding. I just want to make sure you feel it’s appropriate. If not, totally okay, I can pick something else!” Then you’ll know for sure. 

Post # 42
119 posts
Blushing bee

It’s fine. It’s not all white and has a total pattern. BUT for the off chance you’re going to offend some bride, maybe just not worth it. 

Post # 43
583 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

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sunbeam33 :  I don’t mind a lot of patterned dresses with a white background – but IMO the dominant colour in this dress is white. 

I wouldn’t wear it to a wedding.  Not because I thought the bride would necessarily mind, but because I know pretty much every family has gossipy aunties or something, that look for any excuse to side-eye a guest, and I wouldn’t want to make it too easy for them. 

I just think it’s always the safest best to wear literally any colour except white. 

Post # 44
151 posts
Blushing bee

I wore this to a wedding without a second thought 🤷🏻‍♀️ I would never think a PATTERNED white dress would look bridal?

anyway if it’s going to stress you out just ask her. But don’t make yourself crazy over it, the dress is fine.

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