Post # 1
I’ve seen a few posts on the bee about appropriate clothing for weddings and was wondering what people thought about this dress for the MOB. My mum loves it and I like it too, but I’m worried it’s a little too ‘bridal’, what with the colour and lace all over etc. Also, my mum is very petite, just under 5 feet tall, so this would be quite long on her. I do think it’s rude to wear a long white dress to a wedding where you are not the bride, but this one has me unsure.
I *think* I’d be ok with my mum wearing it but I’d be worried that others might perceive it as a slight to me/faux pas or maybe talk about it on boards like this one as I have seen happen occasionally 😉
What would you think if you saw a MOB at a wedding in this? My colours are champagne and blush, if that makes a difference. I had thought that my mum would maybe wear something in that range or a darker version of one of those colours since I only have 2 people in my bridal party and one of those is a man.
Post # 3
@Demi-chan: The dress is fine but to me her wearing it in white is not. Does it not come in other colors ? I personally wouldn’t be ok with my mom wearing it in white but another color would be fine…..jmo
Post # 4
it does look some what bridal,but it may not on your mom.
what does the dress look like on your mom?
i also think since your colors are close to white ect that makes a diffence with what your mom is wearing.
my aunt who is stepping in for my mom is wearing close to my bridesmaid colors,so maybe the dress will be just fine for your mom as long as she does not look like a bride in the dress.
could you post a picture with your mom in the dress without showing her face?
i didnt vote because im unsure still
Post # 5
My mother wore royal blue which matched my shoes and I thought it was fantastic. If you’re fine with it then go for it but I think it looks kind of bridal-ish. I don’t think that dress would take a ton of attention away from you in a bridal gown but I’m not crazy about the idea. It is a very pretty dress. If that came in other colors I think she should go for it lol.
Post # 6
If your dress is very typically bridal then maybe this won’t look bridal in comparison, but in a different colour it won’t look bridal at all.
Post # 7
This. The dress is fine, but not in white.
Post # 8
- Wedding: February 2014 - Kentucky Center for the Performing Arts
Sorry but the white makes me think bridal…no matter the length. I personally would not have my mom in a color that is meant for the bride, even if I am not wearing the color. My dress is ivory…my mom and his will be in eggplant/plum (same color as BMs) or a different shade of purple. Now I have heard that neither the MOB nor MOG are suppossed to be in any color of the wedding party. But hey, its my wedding and I will do as I please, plus it will make my pictures look more uniform if everyone kind of matches. And you should do as you please as well. If you both think its perfect then go for it. I will warn that people might comment under their breath and think she wore the white dress for a negative reason.
Post # 9
@Demi-chan: I think that it totally depends on the style of your wedding, and your personal preference. You color scheme is very light, so I don’t think it would be too noticeable as a “slight”. It would be different, IMO, if your bridal party was wearing deep purple and your mom chose this dress, it would be way more noticeable, but since everyone will be in light colors anyway, I’m not as bothered.
Besides, she could always wear shoes or accessories, like jewelry or maybe even some kind of shawl or sash, that are not white, and add more color to her outfit.
Ultimately, it is really up to you, and you don’t seem to be bothered.
Post # 10
I love that dress, but could she dye it?
Post # 11
The dress is actually described as a light blue on the website and I wasn’t sure if it was my monitor that was making it come up so white. Hmm. I think the underlayer is very light blue and the lace is white, and white lace just makes me think ‘bride’ :/
My wedding dress is to be light champagne so I’m worried that this dress would show up whiter than mine. I’m not worried about being overshadowed, I just don’t want people even thinking to themselves that my mum was inappropriate. We have a few traditionalists in my fiances family, haha.
It’s a shame it doesn’t come in different colours. If it was a couple of shades darker I’d be fine with it, but the responses here are making me think I should steer her away from this one. There’s a million pretty dresses she could wear and I don’t want people side-eying her at the wedding. She really loves this dress though, how do I change her mind about it?
Post # 12
perfect, its blue, its very MOB and exactly what i would expect to see. Its not a long dress, its a below the knee pencil, i think your mum will look great!
Post # 13
It looks light blue/greyish on my monitor. If it’s not white, I think it’s fine.
Post # 14
it looks very blue to me, I think its fine. I do cringe when I see another woman wear white at a wedding – Ive always seen at least 1 at ever wedding ive been to.
Post # 15
To me it all looks light blue, the lace & the underlay. I’d say in that case let her wear it, the cornflower color would look great by the blush and champagne. 🙂