Post # 17
I would normally say you could pull that off for black tie with the right accesories…but if the bride specifically said long…
Actually, so what if she’d prefer long? I agree with Miss Root that probably half the women guests will be in cocktail dresses.
I say, be comfortable and keep it classy.
Post # 18
The second dress you posted is much more appropriate.
If you aren’t looking to spend that much – do you have a Nordstrom Rack near you? I *always* can find very nice dresses (even formal ones) on the clearance rack for less than $100. Maybe worth checking out?
Post # 20
I’ve been to several black tie weddings, and they were all a mix of cocktail length and floor length dresses, with slightly more cocktail length. It’s white tie nowadays that requires a gown. The black dress you have is definitely fine for it.
Post # 21
I like the second one for a black tie affair (and it looks pretty comfortable)!
If the bride already told you she preferred long gowns, then I would respect her wishes. If other women wear short cocktail dresses, then so be it. But you actually asked her and she gave you her preference… so the answer is pretty obvious to me. 🙂
Post # 22
NY always seems more formal to me in terms of weddings, but I’ve only been to 2 I think. So second dress, but only if you think you’ll EVER wear it again.
Post # 23
@ddubzz: yeah you’re right…I should just go for the long, since I know that’s what she wants.
@starbright: I definietly agree with you…I wish I hadn’t asked her, and then I could have worn the black dress comfortably!
Post # 24
I agree that the first one is a (very lovely!) cocktail dress, not black tie. If the bride has told you she wants gowns, then go for a gown. As for the comment that plenty of other girls will show up in short dresses, I would generally agree, but if she’s told you she wants gowns, then she’s likely told other people, too, and there will probably be far fewer cocktail dresses than you might thing.
I think the 2nd dress you posted is fantastic, but if you’re not happy keep looking. Prom season just ended, and you can definately find some classy dresses for cheap if you search the sale racks!