(Closed) Is this dress "the one"? How do I tell?!

posted 6 years ago in Dress
Post # 4
3170 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

It’s so hard to ‘know’ when you see all these shows on TV when girls start bawling and feeling all emotional. I think the dress is beautiful and looks great on you! I knew I found ‘the dress’ because it was really comfortable, I thought I looked pretty in it.

Post # 5
624 posts
Busy bee

Well I think you have to try on a few, take a few pics and think about it, consider the look you are wanting to achieve and how you feel in the dress.  If you love it, never mind anyone else who sees you in it, then I think you will ‘know’!!


Post # 6
1364 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

That dress is beautiful. Make sure to try a few one before committing.  I have a bolero never worn for sale – selling for $25 which includes shipping and handling. Just let me know if you want me to send you a pic of it.

Post # 7
67 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

i spent aggges trying to pick mine. I eventually found one which i thought was the one, i came very close to buying it, but kept second guessing myself and got REALLY stressed. in the end my groom helped massively.

i didn’t show him anything in particular, but we sat down together and he looked through a magazine with me saying yes and no (with reasons) to the wedding dresses in there. I kept tight lipped so as not to give anything away. It really helped me as he’s my best friend, so he knows me really well. He could say things like “you never wear strapless things ever so why would you have a strapless dress”, and “you love backless dresses normally so this one with no back would be nice”. After being given lots of conflicting advise from dress store assistants etc it really brought me back down and helped me focus on what I want. Maybe your Maid/Matron of Honor could help if not him?

i found my perfect dress shortly afterwards. i can’t wait to wear it! eeeee

Post # 8
2351 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

When u start comparing all other dresses to it, trying to beat it out, or trying to replicate it, or just in general r haunted by it day and night 

Post # 9
8041 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

@rambini:  I think it’s really nice and looks good on your body. Is it something that grabs me and I go WOW? Not really. If you’re unsure about whether it’s ‘the one’, I would keep looking. I don’t think you need the waterworks like on Say Yes to the Dress, but if you’re not sure I don’t think it hurts to look at a few more.

Post # 10
436 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I think you know it’s “the one” when you’re comparing every other dress you try on to it. And if you look for it in every bouqtique you go to, you know you’ve found “it!” 

Also, I’m wondering about the idea of a lace bolero? I think it could go very right or very wrong depending on how well matched the lace is to the dress…. Just a thought.  

Post # 11
4495 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I agree that you’ll know when you start comparing every other dress to that particular one. I knew when I tried mine on, but I didn’t start crying or anything.


Post # 12
119 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

The dress is beautiful youll know its the one when iu get that feeling

Post # 13
8471 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

It’s as simple as saying “You Just Know.”  In my opinion, if you are second guessing it, it’s not the one.

Post # 14
2055 posts
Buzzing bee

I think this feeling is a bit different for each person. For some, it may include unccontrollable sobbing and the magical feeling. For others, it may be that they feel like the most beautiful person in the world. For others still, it may be a sudden feeling of relief or a simple “glad that’s over with” thought. Or it might be none of the above and it takes trying on a few (or a lot) more dresses to realize it was the one you wanted all along. It really depends on you.


And as vague and unhelpful as it may be…you’ll know it when you experience it. 🙂

Post # 15
3371 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I think it’s lovely on you, and it will be gorgeous once it’s altered to perfection. It’s a very classic, romantic dress that’s flattering.

In terms of knowing it’s ‘the one’ – you may just be one of those brides who never gets that moment. I certainly was. I guess maybe because I didn’t get to do the whole dress-shopping experience with my mum and bridesmaids (we live overseas), I basically ended up choosing the dress that had all the elements that I loved (lace, tulle, a dramatic train) by a designer that I’ve always admired and wanted to get married in (Vera Wang), that suited my venue and wedding (destination, I wanted drama and romance but nothing too heavy or bulky) at a price that was right for me. I also consulted Fiance along the way and we came to the same choice. So, there was no lightbulb moment, but I looked at hundreds of dresses and always came back to that one.

Post # 16
8695 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

I knew it was the one when I didnt have to ask everyone. Seriously. I tried on so many dresses and always needed reassurance but when I tried on MY dress I just felt like it was perfect for me.

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