Is this dress too gaudy for a wedding guest?

posted 3 years ago in Guests
  • poll: Is this dress too gaudy?
    No, it's great. I'd love if a guest wore that to my wedding! : (28 votes)
    25 %
    Girl, are you crazy? That is WAY too much. : (70 votes)
    63 %
    Other : (4 votes)
    4 %
    Polls are my happy place :) : (9 votes)
    8 %
  • Post # 2
    8082 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    I think it depends a lot on the type of wedding. Black tie? Yes that would be great. Garden, cocktail or even semi-formal its probably too much.

    Post # 3
    10312 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2016

    Too much unless it’s black tie and since the invite doesn’t include a dress code you can assume it’s not.

    Post # 4
    1640 posts
    Bumble bee

    I’d just go with a cocktail dress.

    Post # 5
    7845 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    You can usually figure out appropriate dress based upon the time of the wedding and venue. That dress would be a bit much for a formal, not black tie, wedding. Have you looked at any cocktail dresses? 

    Post # 6
    4059 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 2014

    Agree with the others. Unless the invitation says black tie then I’d opt for a cocktail length dress. 

    Post # 7
    2198 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2017

    I would look at a cocktail dress instead, this one is way too much.

    Post # 10
    14014 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I think that dress is way too over the top and “look at me.” 

    Post # 12
    410 posts
    Helper bee

    It reminds me of the red dress Julia Roberts wore in Pretty Woman.

    Can you tell us what time of day and the location of the ceremony/reception?

    I am inclined to think this is too formal since you said the invitation gives no information on dress code.

    Also, do you already own this dress or are you buying it just for the wedding? Clearly I don’t know your financial situation or that of the relatives you will be mingling with, but an $800 dress for a random wedding seems a bit much to me. 

    ETA: I see you posted more info while I was posting. 

    Post # 13
    2459 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    What time is the wedding? Afternoon? Evening?

    What is the venue like? Grand ballroom? Winery? Barn? Art gallery? 

    It it indoors or outdoors? Both? 

    I think that dress works for a formal evening affair but not much else. I’d wear something a bit less formal; maybe a midi dress in a dark color or a long floral dress or a cocktail dress in a jewel tone? 

    Post # 14
    2972 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: January 2021

    Unless the invitation specifically says BLACK TIE this is way too over the top.

    You can never go wrong with a tasteful cocktail length dress and a couple of accessories. That way, if you get there and it is super swanky, you can dress it up with accessories, but if it turns out to be way more casual than you expected, you can just remove the jewelry and fit right in.

    Post # 15
    6802 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

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    Overjoyed :  I see it’s a relative of your husband… can you ask your MIL? She’s probably a lot more understanding of what you’re going through trying to get some information out of him as far as formality.

    That said, I think head to toe red is a bit much kinda always.  And I love me some red.

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