Post # 1
I’m invited to a wedding (husband’s relative…never met bride or groom before) and the invitation doesn’t indicate a dress code. There is no wedding website. And my husband has been hopeless with helping me decide what to wear. He says “idk kinda fancy” and then I say “formal?” he says sure, I show him a sequined gown and he goes “ugh, not THAT fancy.” So yeah, lol. He has set me up to underdressed and has also set me up to be overdressed so I basically trust the hive way more than my own husband. I tried to pick something simple and sophisticated without too much embellishment, but also sufficiently elegant. Is this dress ok for a wedding guest? My only concern is the head to toe red might be considered a bit gaudy. Would you be happy to see a guest in this?
Post # 2
I think it depends a lot on the type of wedding. Black tie? Yes that would be great. Garden, cocktail or even semi-formal its probably too much.
Post # 3
Too much unless it’s black tie and since the invite doesn’t include a dress code you can assume it’s not.
Post # 4
I’d just go with a cocktail dress.
Post # 5
You can usually figure out appropriate dress based upon the time of the wedding and venue. That dress would be a bit much for a formal, not black tie, wedding. Have you looked at any cocktail dresses?
Post # 6
Agree with the others. Unless the invitation says black tie then I’d opt for a cocktail length dress.
Post # 7
I would look at a cocktail dress instead, this one is way too much.
Post # 8
I doubt anyone here is aware of the difference between black tie/semi formal, etc. It’s more of a “so-and-so is getting married/graduating/getting christened? Let me break out my best dress” and whatever that happens to be, be it a short floral party dress or head to toe sequins, is what you get.
Post # 9
the ceremony is late afternoon, reception evening into late night. I’m not familiar with the venue. I can look at Cocktail dresses too, but I bought this one for another event which is now cancelled and I’m trying to see whether it can be repurposed for this wedding.
Post # 10
I think that dress is way too over the top and “look at me.”
Post # 11
So, it’s looking like a nah, then? I can pick something else. But you guys have no idea what DH puts me through with these functions, lol. Tells me “oh it’s formal,” so I put on an evening gown (we get ready separately) and then when I see gim again he’s in jeans and a blazer, lol. Likewise he’ll tell me “oh it’s casual, whatever you think is best” so I put on a romper and sandals and he’s dressed for a job interview. I’m about to resort to taking a change of clothes in the car, lol.
Post # 12
It reminds me of the red dress Julia Roberts wore in Pretty Woman.
Can you tell us what time of day and the location of the ceremony/reception?
I am inclined to think this is too formal since you said the invitation gives no information on dress code.
Also, do you already own this dress or are you buying it just for the wedding? Clearly I don’t know your financial situation or that of the relatives you will be mingling with, but an $800 dress for a random wedding seems a bit much to me.
ETA: I see you posted more info while I was posting.
Post # 13
What time is the wedding? Afternoon? Evening?
What is the venue like? Grand ballroom? Winery? Barn? Art gallery?
It it indoors or outdoors? Both?
I think that dress works for a formal evening affair but not much else. I’d wear something a bit less formal; maybe a midi dress in a dark color or a long floral dress or a cocktail dress in a jewel tone?
Post # 14
Unless the invitation specifically says BLACK TIE this is way too over the top.
You can never go wrong with a tasteful cocktail length dress and a couple of accessories. That way, if you get there and it is super swanky, you can dress it up with accessories, but if it turns out to be way more casual than you expected, you can just remove the jewelry and fit right in.
Post # 15
I see it’s a relative of your husband… can you ask your MIL? She’s probably a lot more understanding of what you’re going through trying to get some information out of him as far as formality.
That said, I think head to toe red is a bit much kinda always. And I love me some red.