Is this dress too gaudy for a wedding guest?

posted 3 years ago in Guests
  • poll: Is this dress too gaudy?

    No, it's great. I'd love if a guest wore that to my wedding!

    Girl, are you crazy? That is WAY too much.

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  • Post # 16
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    Honey Beekeeper

    “ I doubt anyone here is aware of the difference between black tie/semi formal, etc. It’s more of a “so-and-so is getting married/graduating/getting christened? Let me break out my best dress” and whatever that happens to be, be it a short floral party dress or head to toe sequins, is what you get. “

    That’s not necessarily so and doesn’t mean you can’t be. This dress is appropriate for a black tie function, but inappropriate for one that is not. Most traditionally you would not wear red, either.  It is, however, a gorgeous dress. 

    The default is semi-formal or dressy business attire, ie cocktail dresses or dressy separates for women, suits for men.

    Again traditionally, formal and black tie attire are synonymous terms for women. 

    Post # 17
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    Bee Keeper

    Too much unless black tie. 

    But we need more info. Time and type of location? What culture? In some cultures red is for the bride only! 

    Post # 18
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: January 2021

    Wanted to add that I have been to dozens of weddings over the years and I have never, ever been to one where a floor length ball gown would have been considered appropriate for a guest to wear. If you’re gonna err one way or the other, I’d err on the side of a bit under dressed than over.  Being over dressed will catch a lot more attention than the opposite will unless you literally show up in sweats.

    Post # 18
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: January 2021

    Oops. Duplicate post.

    Post # 22
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    Bee Keeper

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    Overjoyed :  Ohhh gotcha in that case I think it will work if its formal. I’ll be posting dress options soonish for a formal wedding we’re going to. 

    Post # 25
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2019 - A historic Art Deco and French Renaissance Theatre

    My fiance and I just went to a wedding last month. I had no idea what to wear as the invitation did not state any dress code. Knowing the people it was for we assumed it would be fancy and formal. But to me if formal was the case I feel like that would DEF be something that was stated in the invite. So I took a fancy dress and cocktail dress. Thank goodness I did! I ended up wearing my cocktail dress and even that was a bit much. If I would have worn my fancy dress it would’ve been wayyyyy too much for the setting and not apprioriate at all! I know you bought this dress and are trying ro reuse it but I would def say to go with a cocktail dress on this one. It’s a nice middle ground. I’m having a formal wedding and I wouldn’t dream of not putting the attire code on the invitation!

    Post # 26
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    Busy bee

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    Overjoyed :  I own this dress too, but I did NOT pay only $700 for it.  Love your taste.  I’m in the minority and say that I’d be perfectly happy with a guest wearing that to my wedding.  Even more so, given the Latin color element. I’ve been to many weddings that require or have floor length gowns.  Why don’t you find out what your husband is planning to wear, and then see if he is dressed up or more casually?  I would match his style and force him to show me what he intends to do. That might be yoru best indicator of what is expected. You’d need a nice venue and an evening wedding for this.  Also, as an aside, unless this is a very similar dress but not the same dress I have – this is super busty/cleavagey on me.  Is it on you? Not sure I would pair long, red, curvy and busty all into one possibly semi-formal dress if you have some advanced curves because you might be risking “upstage”/“look-at-me” territory, lol.

    Post # 27
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    Sugar bee

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    Overjoyed :  I am Latin American and live in the Caribbean. I’ve noticed that our understanding of what is formal, semi-formal, etc. is different from the U.S. What is commonly considered formal attire in the U.S., we view as semi-formal, and so on. 

    Post # 28
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    Buzzing bee

    It’s so dependent on the wedding. 

    For us, this would fit right in and is typical wedding attire. 

    Post # 29
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    Buzzing bee

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    Overjoyed :  knowing this then yes wear it!! This is typical wedding attire. 

    I only wear cocktail dresses if I know I’m going to a super white wedding. 

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