Post # 16
teacher-bee-in-the-sea : Let’s think about this though. She straight up told you she wants to be noticed at your wedding. She probably doesn’t see anything wrong with that (and imo I’m not really sure there is anything wrong with it…some people are just like that). I doubt it is entering her mind that her wanting to be noticed will somehow draw attention away from you, the bride–if it had, why would she tell you this??
As for the photos, I still don’t see the issue. You are marrying the love of your life. Don’t let a green dress in a few family photos put a damper on your joy. I think weddings can make us all go crazy but seriously this is such a non issue…don’t let it distract you from the happiness of your day!
Post # 17
I wouldn’t wear it, because it isn’t my personal taste. But, there’s nothing inappropriate about it. I would tell her “I’m glad you found a dress you love! It’s very cute- but don’t feel like you have to ask for my permission on what you wear!” Honestly, I don’t have the time or any interest in micromanaging what other people wear.
Post # 18
I personally don’t like the dress period. It’s loud and bright. And I’d probably spend a lot of the time at the wedding staring at her vs bride
Post # 19
The dress is perfectly fine, but telling the bride that you want everyone at her wedding to stop and look at you is not! The good news is she won’t succeed at distracting anyone by wearing that dress, so getting her to change it wouldn’t really do anything I think.
Post # 20
The dress is beyond fine for a summer wedding. I didn’t even understand what the issue was until I read the comments. I honestly can’t get my head around how many “rules” there are for guest attire on the bee (even though many other people will insist that the only rule is don’t wear white). Like really.. now bright colours in the summer are attention-seeking and meant to upstage the bride? This is getting ridiculous.
Post # 21
I love it. Guests don’t have to wear wallpaper. Tell her to have fun and rock it!
Post # 22
I think its too loud, I wouldn’t wear it. She should tone it down. Also, her attitude sucks!
Post # 23
- Wedding: November 2009 - New York, NY
I think the dress is fine
Post # 24
teacher-bee-in-the-sea : It’s perfect for a wedding. It’s controlling for you to want to tell your SIL that it’s a faux pas for her to wear something like this to a wedding just because you don’t like it. If you had wanted to have input on what she would wear, you should have made her a bridesmaid.
I also don’t see anything wrong with her wanting everyone to stop and look at her. That sounds like she wants to look good and leave the single young guys looking as she passes by. Not draw attention away from you.
Post # 25
The dress is bright, but I like it for a spring or summer wedding. No matter what she’s wearing, the eyes will be on you as the bride. I would be supportive, especially since there are more important things to fuss over with your FFIL’s declining health.
Post # 26
That dress looks like it’s made for a 5 year old girl.
Post # 27
I think the dress is hella cute.
I also don’t see a damn thing wrong with wanting to look fantastic at someone else’s wedding..I mean, wouldn’t you prefer that to someone showing up looking like garbage bc they don’t GAF?
Post # 28
Personally I think it’s ugly and too bright, but I tend to like colors that are either muted or rich jewel tones. I don’t think it’s inappropriate for a wedding, though. That said, if you’re worried about family pictures maybe you should ask family members to wear colors in the same family?
Post # 29
It’s not my taste but I think it’s fine to wear to a wedding. As long as it’s not white – who gives a shit? Some people try to put way too many rules on what guests can wear and it’s ridiculous.
Post # 30
This post was made as a way to get my mind off more intense issues surrounding the wedding and my FFIL’s declining health and I was hoping this topic wouldn’t get too heavy. I just wanted a light hearted opinion on if it was too loud for The Bees or not as I had seen a lot of these kinds of questions lately.
I’ll just be happy if everyone is present; I really don’t mind what anyone wears, I promise.