Post # 1
My mom is getting married in Long Beach Island, NJ (yes, the jersey shore!).
It is a plated luncheon on a Monday in June, their high-season. The inn wants to charge $40pp for drinks, and that seems pretty crazy to me. For my Vermont wedding, we spent about $15pp.
She can’t bring her own alcohol, ,but they do have an option to have a tab instead of charge pp.
Thanks for your opinion!
Post # 3
Yeah… Kind of nuts, imo. Mine is $10/pp.
Post # 4
40 for drinks alone for a person. Yeah, that seems really high to me. But it is probably a higher cost of living area, so it makes sense. I wouldn’t be able to pay that much just for drinks though. How much is the food pp in comparison?
Post # 5
I think it is outrageousus too; however, she is having it during peak season and they are probably charging here cork fees and serving fees, and possibly a gratuity fee. I would suggest to her that she get a cost breakdown on exactly what pp charge includes.
I would not suggest an open tab. That could get even more expensive. Also, she may be able to have some of the money refunded back to her, if they do not use all of the alcohol.
I have no idea what ours will be yet, but I know it won’t be that much because I just won’t pay it.
Post # 6
We’re doing the open tab option. Risky, I know… but the per person charge assumed that everyone would comsume 5-ish drinks at the open bar. …and that’s on top of the wine table service — and a champagne toast — during dinner. I’m guessing that a few of our friends might consume that much, but none of my parents’ friends will. Overall, the open tab seems to be the cheaper option for us. At your mom’s wedding location, how many drinks would each person need to consume to reach $40? If you think the guests won’t drink that much, then I’d say go with the open tab instead.
Post # 7
That sounds way too expensive! (expecially for lunch!) The places we looked at here were $20-30 per person, which I still think is expensive.
Post # 8
I’m paying 24$ pp for three hours of open bar and that isn’t for super high premium liquors, kinda mid range stuff. I think this is reasonable considering at a tab bar they are charging 5$ a beer and we have some serious beer drinking guys who could put us in debt. But, yes, that seems too high.
Post # 9
For a day time wedding, it seems WAY too high. I would risk the tab. Even at $10 a person per drink, everyone would need to drink 4 drinks. At lunch. I think the risk is low of her going over, though have her ask for a list of what she would be paying for in the tab (are sodas $5? does she need to cover labor and a tip? etc.)
Post # 10
What about giving each person so many drink tickets? If that is an option, that may cut the costs.
Post # 11
Mine is $20pp so I guess if they’re serving nothing but Top Shelf I can see it getting out of hand, but hey it’s “her big day”…
Post # 12
we’re doing a tab. it’s a sunday wedding so i feel like people won’t be drinking that much- driving home and having to work the next day. i feel like it would be the same thing for a day time wedding.
Post # 13
Thanks so much for the ideas! I’m amazed at how the boards have grown even since I got married in June 08!
Post # 14
- Wedding: March 2010 - Ritz-Carlton, Half Moon Bay
it’s a monday lunch, $40 is more for a saturday night swanky all nigh open bar. take them to the mat, bkylnbride08, TO THE MAT.
Post # 15
Agree, $40 for an EVENING wedding, yes, that makes sense (i figure $15/martini at a nice bar, right? so 2 drinks, plus bartenders, yeah i can see $40/pp) but for a morning wedding? Whoa. No way.
Can you cut it back to just SOME liquor? I know it’s a morning wedding….i’d think champagne and sparkling wine, nothing heavy like scotch.
At a wedding i was at, the bride and groom covered the first $500 in drinks and then it was buy your own. Everybody got 2 drinks out of the bar before it opened up to cash.
Post # 16
Wow. We’re paying $40 pp for 4 hour dinner reception, which is a lot, but I really wanted the venue and it was their lowest option. For a lunch though that seems really high!