Is this emotional abuse? Do I stay or go?

posted 2 years ago in Relationships
Post # 61
2928 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2006

He’s a narcissist. At minimum you need couples counseling. That’s only if you want to try, but removing yourself from that environment in the meantime isn’t a bad idea. I am so sorry, Bee! Your story hit home with me and my heart breaks for you. 

As far as actually leaving, you’ll have to continue to make sure the bills with your name on them are getting paid unless you want it to damage your credit. A judge can order he get the house refinanced in his name only during the divorce proceedings, or he can order it be sold and you split the profit/loss depending on how the sale goes. 

My SIL went through a divorce and the judge ordered her husband to refinance and he never did. He didn’t pay the mortgage and it was on her credit for years. She couldn’t afford to pay it so she didn’t have a choice. 

If you do leave, take the first opportunity to speak to an attorney before his trip in 3 weeks. Make sure your ducks are in a row. 

Most importantly, take care of yourself! Hugs Bee!

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