(Closed) Is this enough for a bridesmaid gift?

posted 4 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

TBH, paying for pre-wedding functions isn’t really a “favor.” Everything you described you paid for was wedding related. I personally think a $150 necklace is very expensive, and you could buy nice thank you gifts for that amount. You mention they could wear the necklace after, but it doesn’t mean they will or that it’s their style. I think of a bridesmaid gift as a thank you. If you buy me something I need to wear to the wedding, it isn’t a thank you. Also, it isn’t a bridesmaid duty to plan your party. their job is to show up on your wedding day. 

Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

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summerbride0815 :  I gave these to my bridesmaids. Tiffany’s mini alphabet disc charm  with their first initial engraved.  They were $125+tax apiece for the entire necklace, pendant and chain.

http://m.tiffany.com/jewelry/necklaces-pendants/tiffany-notes-alphabet-disc-charm-pendant-GRP03133?tfr=1

I didn’t ask they wear it for the wedding, so I think if you let go of that requirement then what you’re planning on giving them would be a fine bridesmaid gift. 

Post # 4
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Sugar bee

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summerbride0815 :  yes, i think it’s enough. whenever i’ve been a bridesmaid, all the “gifts” were wedding related (and i never once thought “ugh, how awful of Bride to have gotten me X”). the bee is very anti wedding-related “gifts”, but i think that (at least in the US) they are totally standard. you don’t need to get your ladies anything else.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

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summerbride0815 :  the gift is what I’d consider expensive. It’s enough. We are spending about 40 per maid. It depends on your wedding, budget and regional culture. 

But before u buy expensive stuff…are you sure they would wear them? For example, I like tear drop shaped necklaces and a friend of mine likes square. Silver and gold are both neutral but I usually only wear silver…so it can really depend. 

Post # 6
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Helper bee

Yes, that is enough.

Post # 7
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

Can I ask, is this an American custom? I’m Canadian (but have also been to weddings in Europe), and I’ve never heard of the bride giving out bridesmaids gifts. Usually they just treat them to a dinner or pay for hair/makeup on the wedding day. And I’m from Toronto, so it’s not like I’m from some small town, but I’ve literally never seen or heard about this until I joined the bee.

OP, take my opinion with a grain of salt since I don’t know the customs, but I would consider ANY gift to be a nice gesture. I don’t feel like it’s necessary, but even if it is wedding related, I’d still appreciate a nice necklace that I could also wear to work or on a night out.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

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fresh :  we give gifts in the UK too… I assumed it was standard worldwide

 

I also dont get the bees hate of jewellery as gifts… I dont think you should dictate they wear it, it should be their choice but I think its ok as a gift

 

I think the bigger issues are gifts that SAY ‘bridesmaid’, ‘maid of honor’, ‘groomsman’ etc… as they cant be reused for anything

 

maybe write a nice not to go with it, or pick up a nice but not to expensive jewellery box to keep it in as an extra

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2027

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summerbride0815 :  can we see the necklace? I think it sounds like  more than enoigh.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

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camenae :  agree. It is a nice gift if you take away the requirement to wear it to the wedding. I just don’t consider something needed for a wedding as a “gift.” 

Post # 11
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Buzzing Beekeeper

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summerbride0815 :  If you’re going to spend that much money, why not get something they’ll really like? You can get them that, and they probably aren’t going to think “ew” but I mean… that’s a lot of money to spend on something that will almost certainly be put away and never used again.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: County courthouse

Jewlery is always a nice gift…we’ll Atleast to me.

Post # 14
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

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fresh :  I think we all have to be careful not to generalize when we are talking about customs and traditions. Canada is over 5000 km wide. Most of us only know what happens in our own local area, despite the fact that Bees will post ” In the US (UK, Canada) we do…”

Bridesmaid gifts are very common where I live. I was always of the understanding that they are to thank the wedding party for their support and for standing beside you, and they are not wedding related. Instead they are chosen for each woman’s tastes and interests, the same way you would choose a birthday or Christmas gift.

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summerbride0815 :  If you know that each Bridesmaid or Best Man will love your taste in jewelry,and you are not requiring it to be worn to your wedding,  it is a fine gift.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

Just because something is standard doesn’t mean it should continue to be followed. Just saying. Start a trend in your area, thank your bridesmaids by giving them a gift they can appreciate. All of the things you paid for are technically for you, since it’s your wedding. But as long as it’s a style of necklace you know she would like then you’re good. 

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