Post # 47
No, I don’t think you’re overreacting. The effects of smoking are 100% evident, and it causes even more problems in babies and children than in adults. You are just being a good mother by wanting to keep your child out of actual harm’s way. It’s especially alarming since your Brother-In-Law was born premature. Did she smoke when she was pregnant with him? She obviously doesn’t realize, or doesn’t care, what happens to the kids. If she wants to see them she will have to suck it up and come to your house.
Post # 48
DH says that his mother smoked like a chimney through all 4 of her pregnancies, so she did smoke thru her pregnancy with Brother-In-Law and around him his entire life.
Post # 49
I have smoke-triggered asthma, so if Mother-In-Law smoked I wouldn’t be able to go to her house, EVER. I don’t think that is a safe place for children.
Post # 50
As an oncology nurse, I never would let anyone smoke around my children or take them into a home where someone smokes indoors! You also need to be aware of 3rd hand smoke— all the chemicals that get trapped in soft furnishings, clothing, hair etc….also, after someone has smoked, they breath out chemicals from their lungs for several minutes! I wouldn’t let her hold my kids unless she wore smoke free clothing. Your obligation is to your future children. She should consider presenting a healthy role model by quitting tobacco.
Post # 51
That’s terrible! The effects are so evident. My grandmother smoked while pregnant, and my mom had so many issues growing up. It’s good to keep babies away from it.
Post # 52
I don’t think you’re being unreasonable at all. While my mother didn’t smoke during pregnancy, both parents and my grandparents smoked around me like a friggen chimney and I constantly had breathing problems.
I still remember the day when I was around 6 when I begged my parents to stop smoking. They did and have been smoke free for 29 years.
Unfortunately, my grandparents never stopped smoking. My grandfather died of lung cancer at 60 and while my grandmother lived to 83, her skin and hair were horrible. She looked 110 at 70.
Also, to this day I have bronchitus problems that the doctors think are directly related to all the smoking around me as a baby/toddler. ;-