Post # 1
My sis and I are going to my friend’s wedding this summer. The bride is my close friend and my sister is friendly with her through me. My sister has been talking for a month about how much she wants us to go in together (she couldn’t afford it alone,) on a vase sculpted to be a rough recreation of the bride’s wedding dress. My sister’s friend has a pottery studio and apparently she makes them.
Sis is really, really excited about this gift and I’m not sure if it falls into the ‘weird’ category or not, what do you ladies think? A great personalized gift? Clutter but harmless clutter? Downright strange? It struck me as odd but another friend thought it was a fantastic idea so I wanted to get more opinions!
Post # 3
Can you post a pic of one of the artist’s recent creations? I feel like this could go either way – it’s either an amazing keepsake or just plain odd. A lot depends on the quality of the artist’s work, IMO.
Post # 4
I think this would really depend on what kind of person the bride is! I can see how this gift can really be a bragging piece while opening the gifts. After all, it was made especially for her! Who wouldn’t love such a thoughful gift?
Post # 5
I would consider what the couple wants….have they registered for anything? I dunno, taste in art is very subjective. I probably would not want to receive something like that if I registered for a toaster instead.
Post # 6
Hmm, I’d want to see it too. We got a personalized ‘homemade’ gift that was very nice in theory, but totallly not our taste and now I have no idea what to do with it. We have limited storage space but feel bad about throwing it out. We probably will end up keeping it in my parents basement until the inevitable purge… Another thought; if this gift was inexpensive, I’d say go for it and get a registry item or send a check as well, but if yor friend wants to go in on it together it must cost a bit more and if the bride doesn’t like it, now it is a wierd gift from two friends, not just one. IMO, let the friend get it and get your own gift that you feel more comfortable with.
Post # 7
A gift becomes a great gift because it’s perfect for the couple, not perfect for the gift-giver.
Example: A friend of mine attended another friend’s wedding and she bought them a giant papasan chair. Apparently it had been a joke between the friend and the groom several years back that she would do this, and she was delighted with herself to be following through. No worry that the couple didn’t want this chair! Or that they were having a wedding 500 miles from home! She even had the nerve to call them a few days before the wedding to ask if it would fit in the trunk of their hatchback car for the drive back home. Thankfully we talked her out of bringing the giant unwieldy thing to the wedding; I think she shipped it to their house.
It sounds like this gift might be perfect for your sister but you are unsure about whether the bride would like it. Is it her taste? Does she have cool arty things out in her house? If not, tell your sister to ask for such a thing for her wedding someday.
Post # 8
Honestly? Stick with the registry unless, at some point the bride or groom specifically mentioned how much they’ve always wanted a ________________. Thoughtful gifts are wonderful but if they have a registry, they’ve already indicated what they’d like to receive.
Post # 9
I agree with the other comments. What type of decor does the bride like? If she loves original artwork, this would be a fabulous gift! But if not, I wouldn’t go there.
Post # 10
I agree that this could go either way. Do you know if the bride is into displaying art, or invests in conversation pieces, etc? If you look at her registry, ar there things like vases on there? Does she buy fresh flowers much? those answers might help you decide.
I also, agree about the quality of the artist’s work. I might be a bit concerned about "rough recreation." Is the artist not experienced anough to get it right?
Can you call the bride’s mom and ask what her thoughts are? It could be really cool and unique or a flop.
Post # 11
Yeah, I am sure some people would like this, but personally, I’d really hate it. Not everyone wants their home filled with wedding memorabilia. Something like that also wouldn’t be returnable if she didn’t like it.
Post # 12
- Wedding: April 2018 - The Grand Old House, Grand Cayman
I agree with Heather25. Art is very subjective. It sounds like you are already doubting the gift a little, and there is probably a reason for that. I would go with your gut and get them something you are a little more confident in them liking. I personally wouldn’t want a vase in the shape of my wedding dress, but I’m sure there are plenty of brides out there who would.
Post # 13
i personally don’t think its a good gift, unless the bride is into that kinda stuff, it sounds like something that she probably doesn’t have any use for
Post # 14
- Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch
It actually sounds like an awesome gift, and it’s sweet that your sister wants to get it for your friend… but I wouldn’t do it unless it was inexpensive enough to accompany a registry gift. For myself, I have extremely limited amounts of space, and I only registered for things I really need–and I really hope anyone who doesn’t want to pick of the registry gives us cash after how much money we’re going to be spending on the wedding! I definitely would never by artwork for someone else that they didn’t specifically request… too subjective.
Post # 15
Uh…..what about the groom? In my experience, whenever people got us something "bride-y" as a wedding gift it was kind of odd. Would you normally by a couple a present that is clearly geared to one party in the relationship? Unless she’s the type of woman who would really love this, I say get something from the registry. He got some head scratching "creative" gifts and just had to laugh them off.
Post # 16
Hmm, tough call, not knowing what it looks like, my first reaction is clutter.
I think sparkle is likely right, stick to the registry.