Post # 63
I wouldn’t care if I had to pay for my own meal. The wedding will be small with only close friends and family. Why don’t you just call them up and tell them you are thinking of asking for people to pay for their own meals, since you two are strapped for cash, but would like to enjoy dinner with everyone. I doubt your close friends and family will retort that as the hostess, you need to pay, or that it’s “customary” or “tradition ” for the bride and groom to pay. 30 people paying $15 each for dinner is fine. One couple feeding everyone is a burden. Just talk to them.
Post # 64
i think it is not appropriate to ask guest to pay for dinner. maybe you can save some money by asking your guest to give you money instead of gift for your wedding, e.g. travel fund or something like that. you can even have a casual meal at the ceremonial site as you suggested with tents etc, and you can ask them to bring some food to join in, like pot luck. it doesnt have to be formal, as long as everyone is happy and comfortable, that’s fine. congratulations and good luck!
Post # 65
Best thing about eloping: the party becomes someone else’s problem! 😀
Post # 66
Guests should not be paying for anything (except alcohol, in some cultures) at a wedding. You’re hosting, therefore you pay. A dessert or hors de’vours reception would be a lot better.