- 7 years ago
- Wedding: May 2015
Creepy. Check to see if he has any reviews online.
Creepy. Check to see if he has any reviews online.
Also I really wanted a photographer that was more involved with “fun” shots. For me a good personality is really important in a photographer, because they can bring out yours.
It’s not exactly creepy, but I don’t think it was professional at all for him to go looking you up on Facebook. If he’s giving you guys a weird vibe, don’t hire him. Trust your instincts.
Have you tried thumbtack.com? Not sure if they have users in your area, but it’s a great way to get vendors to contact you at your budget
@FutureDrAtkins: Not sure I’d say creepy, but certainly unprofessional. To echo others, a good website doesn’t make you a professional – anyone can do that. Heck, even good picutres don’t make you a professional because even they can be lifted off another website. The best way to get a feel is to meet with them in person, read their reviews (the knot, wedding wire, etc), and ask to see at least 3 full weddings from start to finish. Outside of that, the best advice I can give you is (craigslist = creeps). Now..not ALL people advertising on craigslist are creeps. However, the majority of people who do tend to be non-pros.
i get the vibe that he isn’t creepy. just socially awkward (disabilities can do that to a person). i would be in public. also you said you wrote to him enthuastically so he could have just been excited about it too. also you looked at all his photography stuff so i don’t see the big deal about the facebook thing. if i was him i would do that too just to make sure that YOU were legit, i am sure he gets spam or just people who aren’t serious.
@FutureDrAtkins: yeah, slightly creepy and super unprofessional. Especially since HE replied to your ad, asking for more money upfront kind of puts me off too.
Sometimes people come across weird on the internet though, so id probably still meet up at a PUBLIC place to see what kind of vibes he gives off in person, especially if his work really is that great.
If either of you feel off about it, then I think it’s best to email him back and say that you decided to go with another photographer. It’s really unprofessional for him to look you up on facebook and gut feelings can tell you a lot.
If he’s warning you in advance that he’s got a speech impediment, he may be a disabled person who is also a photographer, and a disability may not have allowed him the same opportunities to develop socially, and if you’ve seen his work and like it, it may be worth meeting in a public place with him.
I promise you when you email photographers we go look at your FB. Same as your boss probably did before hiring you. Not sure why this is creepy? I check out my clients do I can get a feel for who they are or at least know whose face I’m looking for so I’m not wandering around Starbucks like an idiot when it’s time to meet.
I think I’ll sleep on it and re-evaluate how I feel in the morning about it. But now I am leaning more towards at least giving him a chance. Plus I don’t want him to at all think I’m discriminating against him because he’s got a disability. It was more the forwardness and asking to meet at my house rather than a coffee shop or that put me off guard. Shrugging off the contract added to that.
When I write back I’ll ask for a written contract so I can make sure that I receive all the edited digitals as well… and to make sure this isn’t all some scheme for him to get paid to add my wedding day and dogs to his “study of the human condition” lol. I’ll try setting up a public meeting with the three of us and see how that goes. Maybe he asked to come to my house because he’s really interested in my dogs?
I don’t know that it’s creepy, but I don’t think I’d work with him if he didn’t have a real contract.
I really don’t get the big deal. It’s pretty standard to Google people in work environments. If I found an ad off Craigs List, I’d check to make sure the person was who they said they were too. If you put something on Facebook, or anywhere else online, people can find it. Perhaps update your privacy settings.
It’s a wedding not a boudoir, he would likely assume the guy would be there too, and a house is more convenient than his office that is in another city. I’m not seeing the issue. I’d suggest a coffee shop instead though because I don’t let random people in my home.
@FutureDrAtkins: No i don’t think he is a being a creep at all
But #1 rule on craigs list NEVER NEVER meet anyone at your house or there’s MEET IN A PUBLIC PLACE!!
Other than that he is just trying to be friendly and he probably looked you up to see if he would even want to shoot you. Of course photographers would rather shoot cute ppl..so they can use them for their portfolio
Shoot I looked up a dog breeder on fbook and said her daughters wedding was beautiful bc she left her crap open. I don’t think I was being creepy its 2014! PPl can just google you and find info and its usually what EVERYONE does before working with someone 🙂 🙂
Just suggest meeting in public. If he really is a creepster/serial killer, he will disappear once you suggest meeting outside your home.
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