(Closed) Is this guy a total creep or am I reading into it??

posted 8 years ago in Photos/Videos
Post # 62
484 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@FutureDrAtkins:  I can’t help it, I laughed at your suspicion that he might end up just photographing your doga hhaha.

his email is a little creepy but the deal breaker for me would be no contract. That could cause major trouble later. I don’t think it’s worth taking a risk on photography, it’s so important! I’m a  photographer so if you want to PM me i can look at his site. Good luck!

Post # 63
572 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@secretbee33:  Bahaha okay now I’m imagining a reel with like 10,000 gorgeous shots of the dogs, some of which have an out-of-focus bride and groom in the background…

Post # 64
2639 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

Reading it a second time, I think this guy could be a Craigslist crazy.

a.) The whole FB thing
b.) Contract via paypal just SCREAMS scam to me. Sounds like he doesn’t have an “actual” contract.
c.) $50 deposit. Should be more like $500. (my DJ had a higher deposit)
d.) Meeting at your house. A photographer will suggest meeting at their studio, your venue, a coffee shop.

I would ignore and go to the next one.

Post # 65
176 posts
Blushing bee

I would tell him you found someone else and be done with it.

Post # 66
2842 posts
Sugar bee

@FutureDrAtkins:  It gave me the creeps…also why is he looking you up on FB? Weird.

Post # 68
894 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

I don’t know…it’s possible that he is just much more casual than others. I do agree that $50 is a super low deposit but I don’t know what your budget is for your photographer.

The other things he said don’t seem super weird. When Fiance and I were looking for DJ’s, one (who was a company recommended by our venue and has been in business for years) offered to come up to our house to meet. I didn’t think anything of it, although we ended up meeting at a Dunkin Donuts because it was easier. 

Also, there are so many pictures on Pinterest of brides and their dog/cat/whatever on their wedding day. Maybe he has had a lot of requests for those pictures and assumed you might be one because you have dogs prominently on your Facebook.

You can also always provide your own contract if you like everything else about him.

Post # 69
632 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@FutureDrAtkins:  Looking for vendors (or anything really) on Craigslist is really hit and miss. That site has a reputation and it’s not for nothing – there are a lot of con artists and weirdos on there and if it were me I’d proceed with caution even if a vendor seemed totally nice and legit. If you are getting red flags from this guy before you’ve even met then I’d email him to say I’d changed my mind and find someone else. 

Even if he does turn out to be an honest vendor, it sounds like he doesn’t really know how to stay within other peoples’ personal boundaries. He’s already done some things that have made you uncomfortable (wanting to meet at your home, looking you up on facebook) and it’s your photographer’s job to make sure you’re comfortable and relaxed so they can take good photos. Do you really want to run the risk of looking tense and uncomfortable because your photographer is a total creep?

Post # 70
597 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I posted ads on CL for both photography and a pianist. I was absolutely thrilled with the results. However, I can’t overemphasize how much you’ll need a contract. For the photographer, my deposit was $200 and at the wedding I paid the $300 balance. I also did an engagement session, which was really important to get an idea of how he worked and what his photos looked like. I scheduled it early enough that I could cancel and find someone else if I didn’t like it.

Post # 71
170 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I’d say socially awkward more than creepy. My brother has learning difficulties and he sometimes says things that seem ‘odd’ but they are completely well-intentioned. Our DJ wasn’t what you would call a ‘people person’ but did a brilliant job on the day.  


However, no contract would bother me. Maybe meet with him (in public with your FI) and if he seems good, discuss that point further. Maybe Google him to see if there are good recommendations?


I think it’s nice that he’s forewarned you of his being shy and having a speech disability, but that may not work if you want lots of group photos that need organising. Our photographer was brilliant at rounding up people for those! Something to consider..

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