(Closed) Is this horrible (tip related)???

posted 7 years ago in Money
Post # 3
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445 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I couldn’t possibly tip 30%…I really feel a tip in merit based. Vendors set there prices based on what they think they should earn for their services. If they go ABOVE and BEYOND your expections, then tip….I don’t feel it should be expected or a certain percentage.

Post # 4
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2135 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I personally I agree with you. Granted, I haven’t had my wedding yet, and haven’t been to many. But I agree that the costs are ridiculous to begin with, so why pay even more?

Post # 5
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445 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Referral business and good reviews go a long way too!

Post # 6
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238 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I think it’s ridiculous, too. I’m definitely not tipping my vendors anywhere close to the ‘recommended’ amounts. As a former waitress, I understand the logic behind tipping servers, but tipping expectations have gotten ridiculous. They inflate their prices for weddings already- that’s enough!

Post # 7
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32 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2012

A) The vendor included tip, that is done

B) The DJ must get a tip

C) The charge for the reverend is more a donation/suggestion and a tip on top of that is not needed

 

So, in my book, I got you out of 2/3

 

 

Post # 8
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515 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011 - Clark Gardens

You only need to tip anyone who does NOT own their own business. DJ who owns the company, for example, would not expect a tip. Bartenders, waiters, floral delivery people, etc. are the types of people who would be very happy if you tipped them.

Post # 9
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32 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Highwire: In that case you would never tip a salon owner…

 

 

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Firstly I would never ever pay 30%, i tipped all my vendors 15% max and if i really loved them then i went above and beyond. I would do the same.

 

Etiquette rules are that if the gratuity is included you dont have to pay extra and if they own the buisness.

As someone who is just starting out, owning my own wedding buisness and doing DOC work, do I like a tip, absolutley…who wouldnt. What i like about it though is that when i get it it gives me that extra boost of confidence…like “hey i did such a good job, they tipped me!” So with that in mind…no tip and a stellar review instead would be just as great, if not BETTER then getting money.

Post # 11
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3176 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I only tipped my DOC. She is the only one I felt really deserved it. I wasn’t about to tip the DJ who I paid $600 for 4 hours of work.

EDIT: I lied, I tipped my hair and makeup people too.

Post # 12
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515 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011 - Clark Gardens

@megbon12: The owner of the salon, no. A hair stylist who works in the salon, yes.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I wouldn’t tip anyone who didn’t go above and beyond owner or not. My venue is charging tip for the servers. My photographer and DJ, I am already paying based on the service they provide, and I really csna’t see them excedding my expectations on the thousands of dollars we are already paying…

Post # 14
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600 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I dont really want to tip anyone…

But if someone does a good job I will…

Prices are high to begin with, and then people EXPECT additional $$$ just because…. No… it needs to be earned

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Captain013: I feel the same way. Even if they do an amazing job, I’m already paying them quite a bit…I know they have expenses to cover, but they set the rate for their services. I’m sort of in the “only for those who go above and beyond” camp, although it may not be proper etiquette.

Also, I actually tried to tip my hair and makeup person for the trial, and she applied it to my balance for the day-of services. I didn’t realize that some vendors may not accept tips as a policy.

Post # 16
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I actually did not end up giving any extra tips aside from hair/MU.  I did not tip my photog ($3k) or my DJ ($1400).   They did great, but they were owners which I read you do not need to tip, and I think they charged plenty already.  My DOC was part of the venue who was already charging service charge and gratuity on the food and drink prices.  As an after thought, my hair/MU person were their own business/owner also, so I’m not sure they required/expected a tip, but I read you always tip them so I went with it.

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