(Closed) Is this in poor taste?

posted 6 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
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7902 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

Whether you do this or not, people will still clink their glasses.

Some consider it rude to ask for any money, even for a donation. I’d say if one of those people is your own Fiance, you should probably not do it. 

Post # 5
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7609 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

It’s a sweet idea, but kind of depressing to be honest.  I would’t really want to have a debilitating disease overshadowing the celebration of the marriage, you know?

Also see if you can think of an idea where people can get you to kiss without pulling out their wallets. 🙂

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I LOVE the idea of a donation type thing for a good cause:) 

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I agree wholeheartedly with your Fiance.

I think it’s lovely to honor your grandmothers with a charitable donation, but you might want to consider suggesting it as an alternative to gifts/registries. I’m not sold on the whole donation jar as a substitute for clinking glasses thing, but if you have your heart set on it, I would go with something like “Spread a little love around” or “Kisses for a cure.”

“A kiss to remember” is really tasteless. I get where you were trying to go with it, but just..no.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I love this. My dad has Alzheimer’s and so maybe it just hits close to home.

What’s the point of a wedding if it’s not personal?!

 

Post # 11
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778 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Ah, I didn’t realize “kisses for a cure” was already taken, but I guess I shouldn’t be surprised. 🙂 You should definitely bump this up on Monday morning when more people are around and see if some of the other bees have more creative ideas than I do!

 

Post # 12
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2401 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Personally, it’s both morbid and cute to me. I’d totally donate for the kiss, but I does think it casts a shadow on the reception. 

My cousin had anyone who wanted to have them kiss go up and sing a song with the words “love, wedding or kiss” in it. It was a BLAST and some of the guests got really creative. 

Post # 13
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3886 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Since one of the side effects of  Alzheimer’s disease is loss of memory, I’d imagine many folks might find it offensive. It’s like saying “a delicious kiss” when collecting for an anti-hunger charity.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee

I do not think that your wedding is the appropriate place to solict donations for any cause.

If you want to donate to this cause, then I think you should do so. 

But charitable giving is a very personal decision and there are many who will disagree with supporting whichever cause you select.

 

Post # 15
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13099 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

@andielovesj:  Agreed.  Especially since your Fiance seems to be against it.

Also, just as an FYI, people will still clink glasses whether you have another method in mind or not.  Just so you don’t get too upset about it.

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

@Mrs.KMM:  Her Fiance isn’t against it just against the ‘slogan’.

I think it’s a great idea since you are joining two families that have both dealt with the same disease and I think a lot of people would gladly support you.

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